That disturbed me, terribly. She was talking about her sex adventures and fantasies. She's 15 and my neighbor's daughter. Her father left her when she was 2, it's just her and her mom. Her mom is never around. She also said some guy paid her $700 to do it with him, she says now she took a prego test and it's positive. Her mother doesn't know. The girl is 15, doesn't have a car and got expelled from her private school and ditches her over crowded high school. I've known Rachael since she was 7 and moved in next door. I'm one of her closest friends- one of the few people that she opens up to. I want to tell her mother or my parents but I don't want her to hate me. I want her to know that she can tell me anything, in confidence. I want to tell somebody that she is endangering herself but don't want to lose her trust. I need help understanding the situation first, then help with deciding what I should even do!
♥♥♥♥,
Emmerz aka Emma
2007-01-31 10:57:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I don't know if it is true or not. I'm 17. Rachael has been to counselor's but all she does is sit there. That's why I and our mutual friend Layla are the only people she opens up to. I bet it is true because she has been looking bigger in the stomach area.
2007-01-31 13:02:33 · update #1
You sound like an amazing friend. She needs to see a doctor through her pregnancy, she also needs to stop having sex, she doesn't need any std's if she's having a baby. All I can say to do is tell her that you love her dearly as a friend but she is carrying another life in her and she needs help. And that if she doesn't tell her mom then your going to. She may be mad at you but if she can come to the realization that your right she won't be mad at you forever. If you think that you would have a hard time telling her mom then talk with your mom first and maybe she'll say something. Best of luck.
2007-01-31 11:10:16 · answer #1 · answered by Katie Girl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know you are upset, but, I think you should just let your friend tell her mom what is going on herself, pregnancy is not something you can hide very long. You will end up in the middle and I don't think that is where you need to be. Your friend is probably exaggerating her adventures to impress you. (or thinks she is!). If you want to remain friends, just let her know how you feel about the situation and advise her to open up to her mom or a counselor at school. She is headed for big trouble if she don't get herself together. Good luck Emma, she is lucky to have a friend as concerned about her as you are.
2007-01-31 19:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by Linda W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a womens clinic and let her talk to someone there. Sometimes they will come with her to tell her family as support and incase they need any more information. At the clinic they will help her with any decision she may have to make. (to keep the child, abortion or adoption, and the possibility of the location of a mother and child shelter)
Best of luck with this, and remember, this is not your responsibility, if it goes agains your beliefs, or feelings step back a little and explain to her that you are there for her and love her regardless, but are uncomfortable at sometimes. She should understand. After all you didn't put her in this position.
2007-01-31 19:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think you should just let your friend handle telling her mother if you really need some one to talk to about this just let your mother know and if she thinks that her mother should know may be she can just say that she over heard her telling you this so that you and your friend can still have confidence in each other when you tell secrets but I think the best thing would be to just let her handle it if you think that she is or going to do something that can get her hurt then you have to tell her that your going to let her mother know but only to help her and if she does not want any thing to do with you after I think you still did the right thing for her cause at least she is not hurt but if she is a real friend she will see that you are only doing it to help her and nothing else
well good luck to you and your friend.
2007-01-31 19:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by just bored 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to stop being friends with her. As HARD as that sounds, she is not listening to a word you are saying, and not taking any of your help. She is DISSING you.
You tell her this..
"You are either going to listen to me, or you can do all this all on your own. i can help you out, but you aren't letting me!"
Also, don't tell her mother, it is not your place. But just let her know wahts up and be straight. Don't play any mind games. And if she doesn't want your help, don't give her ANY help. That goes for giving her money, clothing, or anything for HER. (if the baby needs something, you go out and you buy it, don't give her money.) And if she is a ngelectful mom, report her to CPS so that child can have a better life....
2007-01-31 21:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by Pandora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you are in a terrible situation right now, you should tell YOUR parents first, because they will now what to do excactlly, if you do not feel comfortable discussing that with your mom or dad, then maybe you have another female realitive that is willing to listen to you and help. Your friend might be mad at you at first ( if you guys tell her) but sooner or later she will realize that you care about her, and just wanted the best. ⥠good luck, and if you need a girl to talk to about it, you can email me.. caligirlh21@yahoo.com â¥
2007-01-31 19:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emma,
I am sorry about your friend, and I am also sorry about the situation your stuck in. Talk to a school consular or something do anything to help your friend.I had Anorexia when I was 12 (I was Anorexic only weighed 45 pounds) and had to talk to many consulars. You may feel like crawling into a black hole, but it's the right thing 2 do.
2007-01-31 19:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its best to talk to her and advice her about her current situation. She is your close friend and of course you can tell her that what she does is not good for her future. If she dont want to listen, maybe you can write her a letter stating from the bottom of your heart that u are helping her n not ruining her life. Tell her that u care about her and dont want her to get hurt. Talk 2 her first and if she is stubborn, maybe talk to her mother but in discreet, of course. Let her mother handle her emotions and problems. Once you've done your part, its time for you to wait and let her come and thank you.
2007-01-31 19:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I would point out to her that there's a word for women who have sex with men for money, and it's not a nice one.
You really need to tell. If all this is true, then there's another life at stake besides hers. If it's not true, then her mother needs to know what her daughter is saying and needs to get her some kind of help.
I know that you feel like you should be loyal to her, but if you care, you have to tell.
2007-01-31 19:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by Trisha 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok... your right... its good when people trust you. however im guessing you want to HELP her. the only way you can help is by telling someone... your mom is the best person. she may hate you for awhile... but its better if she hates you and has help then loves you and hinders the baby or herself. she is way to young to be a mother. think about it? what does your gut tell you?
2007-01-31 19:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋