he is in jail i dont know when he is gettin out yet should i stay by his side help me
2007-01-31 10:55:06 · 35 answers · asked by latisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
nope
2007-01-31 10:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Been there, done that, won't do it again. Whatever he did to be put in jail is his problem to deal with, not yours. It is a very painful life to sit by the phone waiting all day long for a collect call from him, wondering if he's safe, putting money on his books and becoming involved with the legal processes he's going to have to deal with. It doesn't make you a bad person to draw the line and not be imprisoned yourself. If you're going to get hurt, hurt now and get over it instead of some long, drawn out hurt that makes you bitter.
2007-01-31 11:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by Zen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends. What do you feel? What do you want him to feel. What if he stays there a long time and at the beginning you will stay by his site but over a year or two you will get bored or consider he doesn't deserve your time any more. It is going to be much harder for him than for you because he is there and can't do anything against soul pains. For you outside is easier. But even if it is easier for you think well... what you REALLY want to do and do it. If you do otherwise it is very possible that some day you are gonna be sorry.
Don't feel bad for what you have done because you wanted to do so. You would have felt even worse if you wouldn't have done it. Trust your feelings.
(Sorry but i am not an english speaker)
2007-01-31 11:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by greengrin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him yes, but if you have children and he has done something that would affect your relationship with him because of children then the law states NO, otherwise yes even if he is in Jail, I want to tell you something, remember when we were young and we were punished for something we did wrong, well he is in Jail being punished and when he is out, what he is done has been paid for and must start new and people must forgive because he has paid the price and people should not hold things against people who have done the time for the crime
2007-01-31 11:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what he did and your relationship with him. Is this your husband? If not, then you have no commitment to stay by his side and try and work it out. Is this the result of a violent act? If so, then I wouldn't recommend staying with someone who has anger control issues. Did he go to jail because he hurt you? If so, I don't care if he is your husband or not...leave him. Get away. Get far, far away!!! Is breaking the law a regular thing with him and this is just one of the times he got caught, or is this a one-time deal and out of character for him?
Why would you want to stay with someone who is in trouble with the law...usually little changes with these people and your will spend your entire relationship dealign with this kind of garbage....look for someone better and with enough common sense not to break the law!
2007-01-31 11:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by nexgenjenith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely a tough decision. That is up to you. What did he do? Is he in jail for hurting you? Did he hurt someone? Is in jail for a drug problem? for stealing? Is he getting help for whatever he did? How long has he been in jail?
I would find it hard to be with someone in jail. You should talk to him if you have been with him for a while, or just a short while? If you just started dating, I would probably leave. Are you married? If you are married, that might be a different story? Try counseling. He needs to pay for whatever he did. You don't have to pay for what he did. You should talk to him and you need to express to him how you feel. Speak to your family and get their support. Your family usually knows you and your situation better and can give you good advice. My prayers are with you. Hugs to you.
2007-01-31 11:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. Though love is love unconditionally, whatever he did had to be something illegal in which case he didn't love you enough not to go to jail so why should you stay by his side. There is nothing he can do for you in jail, leave him while you have the chance. Good luck babe!
2007-01-31 10:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine waited for her bf/baby daddy while he was in jail for 8 years. He got out only to cheat on her and wind back in jail. Just an FYI
2007-01-31 11:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay by his side until at least you know how long he will be in there. Then if he is doing like 12 life sentences you will have to move on. But if he is doing like 30 days you know you could wait that long.
2007-01-31 10:58:55 · answer #9 · answered by Rickey W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Why is he in jail?
2) Can you live with the fact that he did something that landed him in jail?
3) Do you love him?
If you can't answer #2 and 3 with yes, then I'd leave him.
2007-01-31 10:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend that was in jail and he's out and we're still together and I think him being in jail helped our relationship grow...but I can't tell you what to do that's all up to you...but if you think you can stand strong and be there for him...then yeah go for it...BYE :-)
2007-01-31 11:01:24 · answer #11 · answered by Ashley G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋