should i dump my friend?

Question

in a friendship where i am very insecure...i am jealous of my friend's personality ..i realize this is my character flaw and not hers but i feel like dumping her cause it cause me so much anxiety..should i dump her or should i continue to work on my insecurity and jealousy with my therapist...sometimes it seems so much easier to just run away from the problem

basically she has such an outgoing personality ..i am shy and withdrawn when we go out in a group or just 3 people she talks and i just sit there... its like i have social phobia around her --i know its my problem --i think dumping her would be the chicken **** way out ..i need to face MY problem but sometimes i get so angry at her all because she has a good personality --kind of sick...huh

Answer 1

Maybe you should talk to your friend about your insecurity with her and if she is really any kind of friend, she will help you. Real friends, help each other, are supportive of each other, care about each other,and if she does none of these things, tell her goodbye.Do not put yourself in a situation, that really bothers you, as there are so many good people in the world, that care, and you will never be alone. There is always somebody out there that really cares about you, and if you were bothered by something, that friend would help you.I let go of the so called friends, that do not care about me, and stay with my few close friends, that do care, and we always help each other out, and everybody is comfortable witheach other.We all have a tendency to be jealous towards somebody, but then look at what makes you jealous, their looks, their personality, their money, there are many things to be jealous about, it is only natural, but you have to learn to deal with who you are, and forget what other people have and how they act. Take care of no. 1 you.Take care, and do not be so hard on yourself.Aloha..............

Answer 2

Why dump a friend cause of your insecurities? I got a friend who is very insecure every time i to reassure them they can trust me seems like for awhile they do then they don't. If this person is a good friend you need to work at it as friends tell your friend the truth wish mine would of with me we haven't talked in a month let conversation as gravity of frustration to me that is a coward way out. this sounds like the same exact situation i am in right now. running away from your prolbem is not the answer it could make things worse give your friend the benfit of a doubt. good luck

Answer 3

Talk with your therapist, dumping your friend because of jealousy doesn't sound like a good idea to me. My friend is extremely rich and I am not, and although I am jealous, I don't let it come in the way of our friendship. Good luck.

Answer 4

Not exactly sick, but not exactly mature either. Maybe you could ask your friend to kind of draw you out when you're together with others; maybe she could help.
I used to be kind of jealous of more "social" people, but now I see my own strengths and I don't feel that way anymore.
I'm not concerned about whether you keep hanging out with this particular friend, but just keep trying to have some kind of social life. You don't need a zillion friends, even one or two are good.

Answer 5

is ur friend a good friend?
as k urself that
but dont dump her every time ur jealous of her think of something u have that she doesn't then u'll feel more happier adns ecure
i know it sounds silly but list the things that u like about urself and that other people like about u

Answer 6

Don't dump a person on their personality unless you don't like it. You like her personality, you are just jealous of it. I say you work on that and your insecurity. Don't dump your friend, put her on hold, work on yourself. Once you love and respect yourself you can love and respect others.

Answer 7

if the friend is loyal no espesicaily 4 a guy. but if the friend push u around and is mean you dont need 2 waste ur time on sum1 as stupid as tht specific person.
-Suzi-anne <333

Answer 8

Why would you dump your g/f? that is not fair for her you need to work on yourself talk to your g/f about your problem maybe she can help you work things out.

Answer 9

i dont think u should befreind (as u say dump) ur freind just cuz she has a stronger personality than u.