I am 17 years old, the first time I had sex which was 3 and a half months ago I got pregnant, the father wont believe me that I am pregnant and I have already been to the doctor. The only way he said he would take care of the baby is if i have a patternity test done, they are like 500 dollers is there any other options?
2007-01-31 10:42:03 · 12 answers · asked by We screwed up! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
An abortion will be half that or less. Go to planned parenthood.
2007-01-31 11:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well you may not like this idea but you could opt for an open adoption. That way you could still see your child but at the same time know that they are being raised the right way with everything that they need or want. I was adopted in the second grade. My mom had 4 kids out of wedlock with the same man. They were together off and on but life was tough growing up. I'm not trying to force you into this decision, i'm merely trying to provide an option to you. That or you and your baby could recieve help from the welfare system. It's not charity it's just there to help mothers out when they need it.
2007-01-31 18:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyCat49 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not to sound calloused but...
You could give the baby up for adoption. At 17, you have some life to live before you'll really be able financially to take care of a baby. I have a friend who did that and she's glad she did even though she now has 2 at home. She simply wasn't ready at the time and wanted her son to have the best life possible. It was a great comfort knowing that for her.
If you choose to keep the baby, then I would scrape together the $500. This puts you in the driver seat for pursuing child support. You should also talk to a crisis pregnancy center and they'll be able to direct you to services that you have available to you as a teenage mom. (Which are many)
Hope you figure it out.
2007-01-31 18:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by dakirk123 3 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Whatever you do, don't listen to that person above named dakirk123. Talk about a horrible answer!
Don't give your child up for adoption. You'll hate that you did years from now.
And if the dad won't help, that's his loss, that he doesn't get to experience this part of the child's life.
2007-01-31 19:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by CJ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No no no, the test can be done through the county's child support division and will not cost anyone anything.
2007-01-31 19:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU KNOW WHAT I READ SOME OF THE ANSWERS THEY LEFT YOU FOR YOUR QUESTION AND I PERSONALLY THINK YOU SHOULDNT GIVE IT FOR ADOPTION YOUR GONNA REGRET IT YOUR WHOLE LIFE THEYRES ALWAYS OTHER OPTIONS YOU CAN TAKE I KNOW YOUR 17 ONLY BUT THAT DOESNT MATTER BECAUSE IM PRETTY SURE YOUR PARENTS AINT GONNA LEAVE YOU ALONE THEY PROBABLY WOULD BE DISAPPOINTED AT FIRST BUT THAN THEY'LL GET OVER IT PLEASE DONT GIVE IT FOR ADOPTION PRETTY SOON YOU'LL BE 18 AND YOU'LL BE ABLE TO WORK AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR BABY EVEN NOW. THEYRES GOVERMENT HELP ALSO YOU DONT NEED YOUR BABYS DADDY TO KEEP GOING ON WITH UR LIFE N UR BABYS IF HE DOESNT WANT TO TAKE RESPONSABILITY FOR HIS ACTS DATS A DIFFRENT STORY BUT DONT LET HIM BRING YOU DONE U CAN DO IT WITH OR WITHOUT HIM
2007-01-31 19:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The only thing that will completely convince him is a paternaty test.
at this website https://www.gtldna.net/?src=overture
you can order a $99 paternity test which is probably more in your price range, good luck.
2007-01-31 18:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by Emmaria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt believe that youre pregnant or that hes the father? My personal opinion, if he wants the test done he should pay for it!!!! You should tell him that....he should take responsibility for what he's done!!
2007-01-31 18:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by ♥i WANNA KN0W♥ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you take him to court for child support, they will do a paternity test at no charge to you.
2007-01-31 19:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by Trisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother wasting your time with him. Take care of you and your baby.
2007-01-31 20:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋