My baby who is one month old does this...?

Question

When she has already ate and has been changed and I have played with her and sing to her, then when I lay her down she begins to cry and if I leave out of the room where she is at, she starts to cry. When I am around her she is fine though. What is wrong, why does she do this, Does she want me to hold her all the time. By her doing this it is kind of impossible to get anything done unless she is alsleep. Any thoughts or advice. Thanks

Answer 1

when she does that just leave her and walk way and do what you need it doesn't hurt her to cry, actually hit helps her to keep her lungs clear. She doing it cause she know your going to pick her up. My son is 4 months old and he was doing the same thing and that what my Doctor said. So i try and yes i broke my heart to hear him crying but a eventually he stopped doing it it a little activity set that goes over them while they are on the floor and get the one that plays music and have light that will catch there attention while your cleaning or whatever even a pee break!
Hope to helped

Answer 2

We usually play some music (often the same few music repeatly), talk to her awhile, and leave her alone. She will cry for sure but the music might capture her attention for awhile. Only if she had keep crying for another 10-15min, we will then get back to her, "pretend" that we are checking on the something (anything other then talk and hold her). Baby first six month is easier to "distract" them with something like sound or music, especially playing the same old one. It comfort them easily.

You have to take note of the crying pattern or style so that you will later know if the cry is for discomfort or simply cry to have company.

I'm a dad of 2 kids (3, 1). You will later find that the first few month is the easiest way to handle baby need. The only fall back is lacking of sleep. But after the 6 month, boy, it's tiring.

Answer 3

First, take a deep breath. Next, understand that ALL babies cry. She must learn that when you put her down, you will come back and take care of her. It will teach her security to know you always come back. Babies who are NEVER left alone actually are more prone to separation anxiety. Babies at one month should be be getting 18 hours of sleep, so let her cry a little bit. Here's what we did (and yes at 1 month). We'd feed her, do a little "awake time" (play, sing, exercise) and then put her down for nap. If she cried (which was always) I'd set the time for 5 minutes. If she was still crying at 5 minutes I'd go in and give her a kiss and tell her she's okay and it's nap time (she of cuorse couldn't understand me but she could see me). I didn't pick her up. Then I'd go back out and if she cried, I'd set the timer for 10 minutes. I'd repeat at 15 minutes and 20 minutes (this is a total of maybe one hour all added together). If she didn't sleep, I'd get her up after that hour, feed her and try again. It took resolve, but after only 3 days or so she quickly learned that nap time was not mommy time.

It's very hard to listen to your baby cry, but babies do need to cry. As a mommy you can't hold her 24 hours a day or you will get so exhausted you can't care for her. If the above doesn't work for you (or you can't do it for emotional reasons) then invest in a baby swing or an bouncer seat. Both my daughters would sit in those while I did dishes or took a shower so I could at least get something done.

It goes by quickly, even though it doesn't feel like it right now.

Answer 4

Since the baby is just a month old it is understandable why she is crying for you. She is probably insecure without your bodily comfort . She has been close to you for nine months therefore she is still adjusting being a separate being.
My sugestions is to get a snuggli . a kind of baby holder that is wore in the front of you. Studies have been done where mothers who wore their babies close to them. Babies who had this experience verses ones who did not had grown more self assured when older. If you give a baby closeness that they long for when they are infants they will have the self assurance they need when they are older. I hope this helps. I know it is hard right now but your baby needs you. So try a snugli and see what happens. Charlotte mother of 4 and grandmother of 3

Answer 5

my baby is over 1 year now. Yes that's what she wants. She wants you to stay there with her and hold her. When she is in your arms she hears your heart like when she was not born yet and she feels safe. BUT... you don't have to hold her all the time. When she does this you sit near her bed and talk to her or read her a story or sing a song so she'll start to learn that you are there for her even if she is not in your arms. Try to do this even if at the beginning she will not be very pleased and maybe she will continue to cry. It is not unhuman or heartless but listen to my advice. If she will get used to be hold in your arms all the time it will be a hard time for you when the will be bigger and heavier. It is gonna be harder and harder for her to unlearn this habbit and the is gonna be more and more dependent of you.
Please follow my advice. Try to talk to her as much as possible. Try not to get very impressed of her crying bu talk to her with love and warmth. She will finally understand. It's better bor both of you. I did this with my son and he falls asleep alone from when he was almost two month. I gave this advice to many of my friends with babies but only one of them listened. The other ones are very sorry for not doing so. It is veeeery hard to hold in your arms a baby of 10 or 15 kilos for a long time.... when he grows up. It's no good for either of you.
I am not an English native speaker so i hope you undersood my words.
If you have other questions and i can help please contact me. yahoo id raluca_motei . I am always happy to help babies and their mothers.

Answer 6

Do you lay her down after she has begun to fall asleep? This is not a good idea. babies should be placed in their crib before they fall asleep and learn to fall asleep on their own. If you are placing her in teh crib to nap, then you will just have to let her cry it out a little. If she doesn't stop in about 15 minutes, then go in and reassure her a little (don't pick her up) and then leave again...do this a couple of times and eventually she should fall asleep. You do not want to get in the ahbit of picking her up everytime she cries, as she will learn this behavior as a way to get your attention. Also, try adding a soothing noise, like one of those heartbeat bears. If you are putting your baby in the crib just so you can get some work done and it is not actually a naptime, then you should try placing her somewhere else where she can get some stimiulation...like a swing or on a boppy on the floor with bright colored toys around her or a play gym over her. Make sure she's comfortable. Aslo, babies do not keep consistent schedules, so if it is usually her naptime and she seems to be fighting it lately, keep her up a half hour longer and then try again...a babaies habits, tastes and schedule can change rapidly as they grow....they may even revert to some old behaviors that they ahd previously grown out of, like waking up at night.

Answer 7

Same thing happend to my sister if the baby couldnt see her she would cry. My sister would just get the bouncer and moved her to the same room she was so she could do her housekeeping stuff. but the kid had to be able to see her at all times. When the baby was old enought to put in a walker she would walk away and the baby would cry but follow and eventually she stoped she is 1 now.

Answer 8

It sounds like shes a mummys girl. awwwwwwww! Im going through the same thing so Ive just bought a baby carrier which you strap on to carry the baby around. You can get most things done and she normally falls asleep after 5 mins anyway. It does get a bit heavy though

Answer 9

this may sound terrible but sometimes you have to walk away and let them cry. If you dont, you will be very sorry in the long run. I am not talking hours on in of crying but let her cry for about 15 mins or so if she doesnt stop then go in and reassure her that you are there and try again. This should work. If not see your childs dr. There could be something wrong and she is trying to tell you. Good Luck

Answer 10

Sit down, get your mum, mother in law or friend around to do the jobs that need to get done. Sit, touch, stroke, talk, smile and relax. Ignore those saying you are spoiling your baby and she needs to cry it's rubbish, she needs you! She needs to get to know you and form a bond with you- crying on her own wont do that. Take the time with her, think of it as an investment. She'll learn to be secure and comforted by you and she will be a lot less anxious as she gets older. Don't think of it as wasting time- you now have just about the most important job in the world!!!