What do you do when your guy friend is really cute and you want to tell him but your afraid he wont like you??

Question

I have a really good guy friend and he's so cute but, I'm really afraid that if I tell him he wont like me any more! : ( I already made this mistake before.So, please give me some advice so for now on I will know what to do. THANK YOU!

Answer 1

This is exactly what happened to me! If you do tell him dont let him know that you're scared for the answer and dont act too confident or else he might lie. Honestly im not going to give you advice that I know you probably arent going to use but I didnt act on my crush (whatever you wanna call it) and I regret it because what's the point of just sitting there doing nothing? Ask him over an IM if you're too nervous to tell him to his face. Show him that you're a really good friend but dont act like "one of the guys." Flirt and give him subtle hints. If you're too shy to flirt do it casually. It doesnt have to be big. I always mess up my guys hair without actually flirting too much so that I'm still comfortable. If you think that he feels some connection let him know it's the best thing to do until he asks you out!
Good Luck!

Answer 2

My friend did the same thing with about fifteen other guys, literally maybe even more than that. she got hurt by every single one and she still didn't learn her lesson. The trick is this: Just tell him how you feel but don't get clingy. See, my friend made the mistake of ALWAYS writing him notes and pretty much stalking him and taking over his life. That's annoying to guys, they've told me. He may be a little intimidated at first, so don't do anything drastic like throw yourself at him or something. But in time he may start liking YOU because you were the one who stepped up. And guys think it's hot when girls do that. It shows they're not scared to step up or take charge for a change. Ha that just shows how lazy mn can be!

Answer 3

I was in total sympathy with you until the last paragraph -- "I'd like to have a boyfriend, just because I'm happier taken." No mention as to the quality of the relationship -- just the whole concept of "boy as fashion accessory." Frankly, as a freshman, you're better off being friends with a lot of different people. Go out with Steve, if you want. The next week, go out with a different guy. And go to the holiday dance with a different guy altogether. It's a good way to get to know different people. But one date does not a boyfriend make, ok? Don't fall into that trap of "one date = going steady for life". Frankly, Eric sounds like a really nice guy. And being good friends is sometimes the way the best relationships start out.

Answer 4

If you really like him and think a relationship would work you should tell him. It never hurts to try he might be feeling the same way about you!! If you think hes cute and all but dont want anything serious with him then why wouldnt you tell him besides thats what friends are for to tell you how hot you are. I am with my best friend we were friends for 3 years before anything happened.

Answer 5

It's not a mistake, it's just a gamble, sometimes it pays off, other times, you lose out.

This is how you feel, and you either sit on it and let it fester, or you come clean and have to live with the consequences.

The only other question you need to ask yourself really, if you've done this before, is do you really feel something for these guys, as finding them "cute" isn't a biggie now is it?

But if you honestly find him attractive, and it starts to frustrate you that the relationship doesn't progress, then all you can do is tell him, and let him do what he has to do.

Answer 6

Listen closely, because this advice is from a guy. I know what I'm talking about.

Guys like the thrill of the hunt. If we see a beautiful girl, our hope is to date her at some point, but if it's too easy to date her, our opinion of the girl is diminished. It's like we thought she was some fantastic, unattainable prize, and I'm able to have her for peanuts.

So, here is my advice. Sometime when you're out shopping or whatever, point out some good looking guy and say, "Wow, he's really handsome. Oh, I hope my next boyfriend is as cute as you". (this way, you haven't focused solely on him.... it's not so obvious).

If he's interested, this is his chance. Trust me, your comment will not go over his head.

Answer 7

Well,first of all do you just like his looks or do you like him for other reasons like his personality?If you just like his looks,it may not be a good relationship.But if you do like him you should tell him for two reasons.He is your friend and you probably have good chemisty with him.So just see if he likes you back.The other reason is think about it this way,when you are an old lady,you will regret all the times you should have done something but didn't do it.Just take a chance.And even if he doesn't like you(which hopefully he will)its not the end of the world.A couple of tips:If you are too nevous to say it in person,try a phone call,text message or email.Hope I helped you out and hope he likes you back!Good luck!!

Answer 8

I can not imagine some one getting angry at a compliment, are you sure this really happened or was it You are cute and I want you for a boyfriend,, big difference Giving some one a complement with strings attached is never a good idea

Answer 9

let me get this straight, you think he's cute... and that's it... right!? So I don't see any problem in telling someone that he or she is cute. actually, i don't think you need to tell him anything since you may not really be sure that if your in love or at least like him. attraction is normal for anyone i n the animal kingdom, the only difference is how you handle the attraction. just be yourself, and wait. need not hurry, if he ends up with someone else just because you didnt tell him it only means that he wasnt really meant for you. in fact, it would be easier to tell him you think hes cute when he already has someone else.
there is a japanese proverb which is fairly translated "Good things come to those who wait". It is better if he learns to like you for being yourself than for liking you just because he knows you think he's cute. goodluck and God bless!

Answer 10

well if he is a good friend, like a STRONG friendship, than it'll be fine. i've tried to get with my friends. most times they do not feel the same way, but we still are very good friends. it's something that they will be completley honest with, that's what friends do.