We have been married for 6 years , and I think my husband is still in love with his ex wife who left him many years ago . It's heart breaking to hear him say things that I can relate to his ex wife .
I'm not stupid !!!
2007-01-31 10:22:23 · 15 answers · asked by Erica S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just because he remembers his ex doesn't automatically mean he's cheating. Do you not think about your former loves every once in a while? If you're gonna accuse him of cheating, you better have more sollid "evidence" to go on; the way you're describing the situation, it doesn't even sound like they've been in contact with each other. If you call every fleeting thought, any fond memory one might have of the past, "cheating" - then it will make all of us cheaters, yourself included. Lighten up.
2007-01-31 10:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I imagine he still has some memories left of her, & that's probably all he's voicing. He's your husband & has been for 6 years, that has to mean something. Talk to him & tell him, that you feel uncomfortable when he 'talks about her'! As a married woman who has been cheated on, I can tell you, it's the ones they don't mention that you should be worried about. Maybe you're just experiencing some insecurities & getting yourself worked up over nothing, but if you feel strongly about your convictions, you should consider counselling before it becomes too big of a problem. Hope I've been of some help.
2007-01-31 18:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by chevy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be stupid, but if you married a man that you believe is in love with someone else, then that was really stupid. Now is not the time for second guessing your decision, you should have done that before saying "I do". You need to talk to your husband and let him know what's on your mind. Remember, this is a situation that you helped to create, so try to make the best of it. You should be focusing on your and your husband's future, not your husband's past.
2007-01-31 18:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Alot of people just do not get over there ex, especially if the ex is the one who ended it. Ex's can be a tough act to follow. Maybe try counseling so he can get it all out.
2007-01-31 23:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by chemky1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are living in an emotional no-man's-land if he still cares about his ex that way. Does he ever see her? I suggest some counseling for him bc he can't seem to move on emotionally - he's stunted and it's ruining your marriage! Demand better or get out.
2007-01-31 18:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of things does he say that makes you think he's still in love with her? I suggest you ASK him if he is still in love with her and if he says NO then trust what he says and drop it. He is with you now, not her. He may still have some feelings for her, but he is not WITH her, he is with you. If I were you I'd work on keeping the romance in your relationship alive in every way possible. Pull out all the stops with sexy clothing, candles, flowers, choclate, good meals, surprise love notes, and absolutel climb his body like a tree when he comes in the door and smother him with kisses!
2007-01-31 18:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sometimes we aren't in love with that person but still may have issues and pain we didn't get over, so sometimes people do talk about their ex's, maybe meaning nothing just talking.some things are just hard to get over.
2007-01-31 18:36:51 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont neccesarily think that if he is still interested in his ex that he is cheating with her.
Are there any obvious signs like not telling you where he is going, odd smells, dodgy phone calls or txts.
If he is leave him.
2007-01-31 18:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you open this can of worms or did he?
Jeez, I wish i could shoot myself for everytime an ex of mine badgered me into telling her about a previous ex and that set the stage for her becomin my ex. Let sleeping dogs lie, ladies.
2007-01-31 18:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well since you know about her.....maybe you're drawing your own conclusions. Dont let this bother you....you either KNOW he's in love with her....or you DONT. Otherwise you're just torturing yourself and making his and you life miserable.
2007-01-31 18:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by ?Jaileen? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋