Do you ever think about someone you?

Question

Do you ever think about someone you really hurt in the past and as time as gone by, do you feel bad or feel you made a mistake and think how could you have done something so mean or horrible?
I know many say things happen for a reason, but for once, I feel people actually make mistakes! Does it take time for some people to realize. I always realize when I made a mistake and actually apologize sincerely to the person. Did you ever feel it and not apologize or feel to embarrased or ashamed?? Or did you show remorse even if it was later down the road???

Answer 1

Sure. Everyone makes mistakes. I doubt there is a single person on here who can honestly say they never hurt someone in the past. Maybe a few more people can say they didn't feel remorse for it, but to heck with them.

Apologies are not always possible, but that does not mean that you cannot show remorse in your heart. I thought about what you are asking, and I remember a couple of times when I was pretty young when I did something to hurt someone. For example, when I was in 8th grade I moved to a new school. A nice kid made friends with me, but he was a bit of a dork. When I figured out he wasn't one of the "popular" kids, I stopped hanging out with him, cold turkey. It must have made him feel really badly. Yes, he was a dork, but he was actually a very nice person who was my friend when no one else initially would be. Later I moved again, and I never got to say I was sorry.

But that is part of the growing maturity process. You make mistakes. You feel remorse and guilt. You improve yourself. That is what growing up is all about. As an adult, you keep repeating the process. You will always make mistakes, but the important thing is that you try your best to make right! No one is perfect, but the closest to perfect people are the ones that realize that they made a mistake and do whatever they can to not make that mistake again.

Answer 2

actually it's the opposite with me, people have hurt me and it took them a long time to admit they did and tried apologizing but by the time they did it, i forgave them but the pain still hurts even after they apologized i just walked away feeling the same way i did before. if anybody hurts anyone please take the time to do it right then and there and not wait forever to tell the truth because once you dont you will loose a great friend or someone who will never find that trust in you again. if you at least apologize in a weekly time it would give that person something to think about, wheather not apologizing just gives the other person something to build up inside and try to forget about and if you try to remind them of it, it will just be worst even after you try because you know it will not be the same and it would be hard to believe, that's why from my experiences I've learn to settle things in a different way and try to help the situation if i ever go out of my way to hurt someone with intention, it's either because they needed it or i was being stupid. but for the most part i would never do that because of my past.