Our relationship has had it's ups and down and my husband and i have finally decided to work on things but the passion, trust and love that was once there is missing. How do you get that back? we don't have any children yet, our first child is due next month.
what should we do to bring US back to the way we used to be?
2007-01-31 10:15:40 · 9 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
besides counseling, what else can we do?
2007-01-31 10:23:49 · update #1
As you have said you two have had you ups and downs. Presumably, both of you have learned to adapt to those ups and downs. So the two of have changed from when you first married. Because of these things dont expect the other to be the same. However, the things you are looking for are obtainable it will be just a bit different. Just continue to grow together, with baby on the way, the three of you have an excellent opportunity.
2007-01-31 10:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with earlier posts. You can't expect things to go back to the way they used to be. You have to move forward. I also agree you two should get some counseling and parenting classes as well because a new baby changes EVERYTHING. You will be very hormonal after childbirth, which means you will probably have some mood swings and you might not want to be intimate with your husband for a while. That can also cause some friction in your relationship with him. Run, don't walk, to the counselor so you and your husband will know what to expect when the new baby comes into your life, and so you can learn how to communicate better with each other. Above all, keep the romance in your relationship alive!
2007-01-31 18:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it won't be completely like it use to be, but that doesn't mean that that is a bad thing. Because now you both have grown together in a different way especially with a child coming due. More likely you both are more closer because of the baby and will be more parents that love each other and baby and have matured as most marriages do. As for the trust it will take time to earn each others trust again, maybe get marriage consoling but remember you both have a child that needs you both. Congratulations and best wishes for your family.
2007-01-31 18:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the part of the marriage that takes work, and by work I mean to love your husband, even though you not feeling loving. To have passion for your spouse, even though there if very little left. To trust that your partner will always have high regards for you. and after awhile, it all come back and your falling in love all over again
2007-01-31 18:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of the things you are feeling can be hormonal. Pregnant women sometimes have low sex drives for hormonal reasons, self esteem...and usually things that wouldn't normally bother us are magnified 10 times when you're pregnant and the changes can also be frustrating to your husband, so you should be patient. look forward to becoming parents, let go of whatever the issues are, especially if your husband is trying. make the most of the few weeks you have left.
2007-01-31 18:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by Forever_Young 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will take time.... As you get more help and work on your marriage and you also should seek counseling and help for you and the marriage.... Then it will get better over time.... It takes time to get that back but once you get it back dont let it go again!
2007-01-31 18:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
going to a marriage counselor is a start. You can never go back only forward need new things to do. Compromise with each other and share each other's interest even if you don't like it.
2007-01-31 18:20:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage counseling and parenting classes.
2007-01-31 18:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU AND HIM SHOULD HAVE A TALK JUST YOU AND HIM
2007-01-31 18:24:42 · answer #9 · answered by diamond w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋