I am so completely utterly head over heels in love with my boss, we had a bit of an affair for six months when his marriage started going down the pan, we never slept together, but did everything but. I thought it might just be lust, but it's not. I can just be near him, talking to him, or working alongside him and i cant stop thinking about it. He has told me that he has feelings for me but that he will never leave his wife, and i know and have accepted that, but its confusing the hell out of me, the way im feeling. i feel so stupid, i told myself id never get involved with a married man, thought all those women that did were stupid, now ive gone and done it. ive never felt like this before. He says that we are friends- just a bit closer than the closest of friends. I just need to know how to get over him. I get on really well with him, we have so much in common, and its making me miserable that i cant be with him. please dont tell me to leave my job, because i love it. Please help?!!
2007-01-31 10:15:02 · 8 answers · asked by tiger x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Rule 1. Avoid married men - if it's over, then that's different.
Rule 2. Don't mix work with pleasure - if it all falls apart, then you will find your postion untenable.
Rule 3. Look after yourself - don't do anything you may regret.
Head and heart seldom agree so watch out for potential heart-break.
Good luck!
2007-01-31 10:23:56 · answer #1 · answered by Modern Major General 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you should feel stupid you don't love him and he will never and could never love you. You'll get yours, so I'm not worried. There's nothing to help if you stay you'll get caught up, you'll end up sleeping together and then you'll be even more deeper. You can't ask a question like this but then you're not willing to make the first move yourself. If you're asking how to get out of a burning building but don't tell me to leave the building, it's ridiculous. That's what your question is like to me. You do need to leave your job because otherwise you won't get over him. Find your own guy. Your relationship never should have even went that far. But you're going to do what you want no matter what, there is no helping you, you have to help yourself.
2007-01-31 10:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask your self if you are truly in love? lust contorts our normal thought process and some people are in love with no more than an idea, find your self then find friends to share your life. you usually cant find what is right in front of you, if you truly care for this man you will respect his feelings and let him go, put your self in the shoes of his wife regardless of what you think, or think of her, what would she think? do you care? if yes your own feelings should tell you its going to hurt someone, who? don't do it to yourself. dont let it ruin you use it to fuel your fire, be a better worker and better person for the better relationship that you will have, you are learning a powerful skill self control. can you control yourself.
2007-01-31 10:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself another guy, then when your boss sees that you are happy with someone else he will realise what he is missing... leave his wife and spend the rest of his life in heavenly bliss with you. Now you don't have to fall out of love at all!
2007-01-31 10:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
life sux eh. you need to leave and get another job, and let time do its thing, been there, and moved on. u will look back one day and laugh...........kind off.as long as you stay he will use you more and more......least he was honest about the wife, i found out about the husband the hard way,lol. chin up and smile,least you dodged the broken ribs,lol
2007-01-31 10:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that only time does it. I've been so obsessed with people but only time made that diminish--even though i dont think it was really love. Love is a funny thing, but only your heart can decide..
2007-01-31 10:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by theflame_inside 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep a mental picture of him making love to his wife. That should do it. If not think about how he is deceiving her, bet my last dollar you aint the only "friend" he has.
2007-01-31 10:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are a woman right you are SMART WITH A BRAIN M----------- ON NEED I SAY ANY MORE hhhhhhhhh eeeeeeeeee not WORTH THE PAIN .
2007-01-31 13:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋