My frien is going to a different school need coping advice?

Question

Im bullied in schoolcause im considered emo im normal though K anyway my best friend my only super tight friend is leaving going to a different school I am crushed Shes the only person I can talk to everything about please give me advice, NOT CRAP

Oh yeah dont tell me that I can move to a nother school with her, I cant and If you say make other friends, Well im in a private school and the only thing thgere are preps that absolutely hate me

I dont think Im emo I dont label myself that People do because how I dress o yah that guy that said dont slit your wrists grow up

Answer 1

In my opinion you are a very sensitive person and should be respected for being that way. Your friend who is moving away to a different place to live is not leaving the planet. You can continue to communicate with her through emails, snail mail. and a trip to visit her. If she feels the same about you then don't worry you will find ways to keep in touch. As painful as it might be....think of it as what is best for her! You can change your loss into happiness for her by putting things in order.....and that way your sad feelings will lighten and you will find ways to cope with her loss.

When I lived in a Navy city in Virginia I often met someone who meant so much to me and I was heartbroken when they had to move to anther navy base. What kept me going was to remember all the good times we had...and treasure those moments. To go out and replay and experience some of the same things I did with her....we had great times being young mothers with busy husbands...I'll always treasure our short friendship.

As you age you realize nothing is forever ..that everything comes and goes like the tides of the ocean....you enjoy what is wonderful and good in your life.....and treasure it .....usually something else comes to you when you least expect it. No person or thing will replace your dear friend....she is a "jewel". I wish you the best in going through this loss.

Take care and write to me if you like....
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Jazzy Geri

Answer 2

Something similar happened to me, my absolute best friend left school and went to another when I was 13. The only advise I can give you, regarding your friend just try your very very best to keep in touch with her. My friend and I did and have been friends for 11 years now! So don't be afraid you won't lose her if you both make an effort and still hang out every now and then. About being bullied and not having no one else to talk to to...the only thing you can really do is... ignore the bullies and make new friends, I think that's the most productive thing you can do.
I know it's hard, and it's not about talking about EVERYTHING with new people, that'll be freaky, right?, it's about being with people, heck I don't know, sharing fun moments, musical tastes etc, you don't need to make close friends, if you do great, but if you don't you still have your best friend no matter how many miles-whatever- away. If you set your mind to keep close with her then you will.
Well, I hope this helped and I hope it's not completely crap ;)
Good luck!!

Answer 3

well, I first want to say that I am terribly sorry. I've been there before. My bf moved away for three years and she has just returned this year. Although I thought I would never find other friends, I gained two really close friends during the time she was gone. At first it will be tough, you might get really sad and lonely (I did) but eventually you will begin interacting with other people and have other friends. Remember your other friends don't necesarilly have to be from your school. Go meet new people at the skate park, or go partying or something. After you have gotten past your scared and lonely stage, just put yourself out there and don't be afraid to try and connect with different people.

Answer 4

I hope this helps....

This happened to me except i'm not emo and i'm a girl but any way, MY best friends left and i was devestated. All i wantedto do was skip school because i didin't have any other friends, then i realized that life goes on and that i'm going to have to get over it. So I still am best friends wit that girl but I have other friends too because i changed. I made my self be nice to people and eventually people began to invite me over to theri houses. (PS i wasn't popular or anything before or after but i realized that there were people out there that didn't hate me).
If you really can't find anyother friends than I'm not sure what you should do but make sure that you don't take it out on yuor friend because it's not her fault and you'll make her feel really bad and your friendship might end if you make her feel bad.

PS. you sound like a really nice and sensentve guy and from your writing i would never guess that your emo.

L8r Sk8ter

Answer 5

hmm why dont you find an extracurricular activity...watever it is,gaming, swimming, car racing,going to the library etc... there r bound to b ppl that have the same interests as u, start from there...now im not saying its easy to have the only friend u know leave the school but either get busy with ur studies or other activities and with time, have a "hi-hello" zone with some ppl who u see everyday and seem a little friendly. chances r since u had this friend,u never bothered looking around for any other and there must b alot of ppl in that school just as alone as u. hope this helps..

Answer 6

I had to move away and was parted with my best friend. It is not easy and you know what, we are thousands of miles apart and remain best friends. We just had to learn a different type of relationship. NOw, we're on the phone or via e-mail. We even installed webcams so we can see each other once in awhile. I've made new friends here, but they are not the same. I can't relate they way I do with my best friend. With time I hope to develop some deeper relationships, none to replace the one I have with my best friend, but close to it. You will go through a period of grief, there'll be denial, anger, and eventually acceptance. Until then, write, call and stay in touch. And be nice to others. Best wishes to you.

Answer 7

When I moved away f/ my best friend we took turns writing each other in the same notebook. She would write to me, then I would write in it and send it back to her. That way we kept up w/ each other. We also sent pictures to each other. And once a week we were allowed to talk long distance on the phone. Though now a days you could probably talk more frequently w/ the different phone contracts. I would like to tell you high school will get better but it is HELL honey. Just make do the best you can and try to hold on to your friend. I moved back to where my best friend lives and we have now been best friends for 18 yrs. Good luck to sweetie. ;)

Answer 8

OMG same problem here, except for the being bullied. i\I'm emo on the inside, i guess, because of the music i like and the clothes i like but I'm not brave enough to show it because i like being liked by everyone and not many people have good thoughts about emos. I changed schools this year and i lost my whole group, we were 7 inseparable friends, but one person who really new everything about me and i knew everything about her. It sucks, my mom is always saying: you can see your friends on the weekend and stuff, but it's not enough compared to seeing her everyday. I still regret changing schools. You're never going to get used to it, it's plain and simple. Having to restart, no old stories, no inside jokes, it really sucks, but eventually you'll get closer to your new friends and and drift a bit from your old ones. it sucks, but it's life. Sorry if I'm not very optimistic.

Answer 9

when i was in 10th grade my bestest friend and i both switched schools at the same time...she moved to a whole other state and i moved to a different city. it SUCKED....i cried and cried i thought it would be the end of the world--

then reality set in. we still had the phone! we talked on the phone every day, same as before...and you and your friend will too. You say she's the only friend you have who gets you and you can tell her anything...well you still can. you wont have her to sit next to at lunch and that will suck, but when you go home, you can give her a call and b**** about all the horrible kids at school.

don't worry...you'll be ok.

Answer 10

I think your best bet is to join a club or two at school to make friends you have something in common with, or if you go to church, join the youth group - there is bound to be other kids from your school there. And maybe try not doing whatever it is that makes everybody "hate you".