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Question

ok. so i have this crazy grandma that as this mental disease. shes needed to get this surgery 4 2 years and she didnt do it so some peice of porkchop got stuck in her throught and she didnt tell my mom till the NEXT day! so i had to get dropped off at the barn while my mom takes her to the ER. then when ever i go down in her room shes always saying all this stuff that makes me feel horrible. all she does is make people feel bad 4 her! what in the world should i do. plus she lives in my house.

my moms mom was very mean to her and gave her a horrible child hood.

Answer 1

Since she lives in your house, the best thing you can do is to spend as little time around her as possible. Be polite, say hello and then be on your way. Remember that sometimes old people get dementia which makes them mean and angry. Bear with it, she's your Grandma and won't be around much longer.

Answer 2

This is very difficult for you.... but I agree with the person who says that she has a mental disease and is not really capable of acting differently from how she is acting right now. And, she doesn't mean what she says.... just years of confused, nasty, violent images all sort of glom together when people get dementia and come spilling out at the wrong times. Find yourself a hobby and pursue it with a lot of energy (something besides the computer I mean). Do some reading about Alzheimer's Disease so you have a better understanding of what is going on and how you can deal with it. Do some nice stuff for your Mom without having to be asked or reminded. Be kind to yourself!

God bless!

Answer 3

You should try and have a little more compassion for your grandma. She can't help it that she has a mental illness and the behaviors of mental illness cannot be controlled by the person who has it. If your grandmother were dying of cancer, or was paralyzed in a wheelchair because a drunk driver hit her with a car would you show her any more compassion? The mentally ill deserve just as much compassion and understanding, especially from family members. Don't take too seriously the things she says...mental illness often results in mean and hurtful words being said by the one suffering from the disease. They don't really mean it. Also, keep in mind that you are talking about your mother's mother....your mom probably loves her mother very much and grieves over the fact that this mental illness has changed her. She doesn't need to hear you being angry and hateful towards your grandmother...this will only add to her pain & her stress. Live with it and if you can't find it in yourself to grow as a person by rising above yourself and learning to love through hardship, then just remember that you won't have to live with her forever....she will pass away some day or you will move out.....BTW, if she was horrible to your mom as a child, then she may have had the mental illness all along, just undiagnosed.

My husband has sever bipolar disorder. At the core he is a wonderful, beautiful, loving man....but sometimes his diease takes control and he says and does terrible things, including "running away" and living on the streets for long periods of time. I could divorce him because often it gets hard, but I chose to love him and stand by him through this. I understand that he is not anymore in control of himself when he has his episodes than I am of myself when my heart beats. I can do things that may alter the beating briefly, but ultimately I am not in control. During his periods of lucidity, he adores me for my unconditional love and it is nice to know that I have touch his life in a positive way when so many others have turned their backs on him because it was just too hard.

Answer 4

First: she has a mental disease. So, this means that (a) she's not trying to make you miserable on purpose, and (b) she's never going to change -- in fact, it will get worse.

Second: your mother is as frustrated with her behavior as you are, if not moreso -- because it's your grandmother, but her MOTHER, and so she's not just dealing with your grandmother's behavior; she's also miserable because the wonderful woman who raised her is gone, driven out by the mental disease, and will never be coming back.

Finally: what can you do? Don't go down to her room except for brief visits; laugh off anything she says that's upsetting, tell her you love her, then leave. Don't try to change her, because she can't change, not because she wouldn't if she could.

Answer 5

You have to realize that your grandmother has a mental illness and may not always be aware of the things she does and says that may make you feel bad and there may even be times that she can't help it. Try not to take the things she says or does to heart. Maybe, you should spend a little less time with your grandmother. Talk to your Mom about this, also.

Answer 6

well except from movin out i dont c another solution. its ur grandma she lives in ur house u must live with it...sorry but thats life

Answer 7

move out

Answer 8

kil her... jk don't.
she's you're grandma you're supposed to love her. You should try telling her how you feel.

Answer 9

PLAY PRANKS ON HER!

THROW SOME CHEWED GUM INTO HER HAIR

HIDE HER MEDICINE...OR REPLACE IT WITH FLINSTONES VITAMINS

REPLACE HER SHAMPOO WITH GREEN HAIR DYE

CAPTURE SOME COCKROACHES AND RELEASE IT INTO HER MOUTH WHILE SHES SLEEPING AND SNORING

PLACE A PIECE OF RAW MEAT AND PLACE IT UNDERNEATH HER BED

SPREAD PEANUT BUTTER IN HER UNDERWEAR TO MAKE IT SEEM SHE DOESNT WIPE PROPERLY

HEHE

GO FOR IT!