My sister who will be 35 in March with her husband have been trying to conceive for nearly three years and I think she will star IVF next month. They live in a different country to me and my hubby.
In April we will have been married for two years and since last April we have been ttc with no such luck either.
My question is should I tell her that we too are trying with no luck or not mention it to her as she obviously has her own problems. Plus I don't really want to admit to anyone that it is taking us so long... I was hoping to be pregnant by now and then just tell them when we get a positive, but should I let her know that we are at least trying too... Its really no one else's business but ours, but I don't want to hurt her feelings if and when we do become pregnant?
Can I get some general advise here?? Please and thank you.
2007-01-31 09:32:14 · 6 answers · asked by MrsO 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I would tell your sister now that you've been trying for a year to get pregnant too. If anything, you both can be very supportive of eachother. PLUS, when you do get pregnant, she may not be as upset or jealous--since she'll know it's taken you a long time to get pregnant. (And that you didn't get pregnant off the bat.)
I think it'd be smart to ask for her discretion on the matter. You don't want your sister to tell everyone, and then have your whole family constanly asking if you're pregnant. That'll just make the process worse on you!
2007-01-31 10:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by applesoup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a hard one. I guess you can tell your sister and you guys can share your experiences if you feel you want too. But regardless, if you get pregnant before her it is going to hurt her, but that is life. I don't say that lightly, i've been there. I've sat by and watched my two sister in laws each pop out two kids, and 9 years later here we still are. She and you might enjoy having each other to talk to about this, and you medication, proceedures. Just remember if you do get pregnant to try not to rub it in, i know you'll be excited, but remember the whole time while she truely will be glad for you it will be eating her inside. Just be considerate (it sounds like you already are)
2007-01-31 10:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by Skanky McSkankypants 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is okay if you tell your sister that you and hubby are trying and still no luck because you are giving her the feeling that she is not alone and she is gonna feel better about herself , that is what sisters do for each other.
but don't worry about not getting pregnent yet , it's normal , relax
so many women are going thru that and they will get pregnent when the time is right . good luck
check this web site www.babycenter.com it gives you some good info
2007-01-31 09:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by mary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her. I don't think it would hurt her feelings, she might be jealous but not for long. Will it hurt your feelings when she gets pregnant? Good luck ( to your sister too)
2007-01-31 09:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by applecrisp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you share it with her. Sisters are supposed to be heavily bonded. Who knows maybe you guys maybe able to help each other. I think it might hurt her if you did not tell her your struggles as well
2007-01-31 10:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by scm82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to her...it could be something in you all genes ....
2007-01-31 14:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by aflyladybug4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋