My brother is wanting to get married at 19 instead of going to college to play baseball. I dont like his fiance but dont "hate" her. My parents are really against it and I feel like his fiance is pressuring him to get married because she is a little bossy but he swears he wants to. Also I am in the wedding. Do you think I should support him or try to talk him out of it even though he wont listen?
2007-01-31 09:22:20 · 11 answers · asked by collegegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that you have to support him. We have the right to make our own mistakes. Besides even though it seems like he's being too hasty no one can know for sure that it won't out in the end, so you should support him, even if you think there's just a tiny chance it'll be OK. Who are you stand in the way of love?
I think that your brother needs to decide for himself. If he does get cold feet he'll need someone to talk to that he can trust and who won't say 'i told you so'. As his sister that should be you.
2007-01-31 09:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by How many questions can there be? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well how close are you to your brother? How far away is the wedding? You can give him your opinion but ultimately he will make his own decision and if you love him you will support what ever choice he makes. I have a younger brother and seen him with a few bad choices in women and told him how I felt but ultimately it was his decision to break it off. He will respect your opinion even if he disagrees and he will know you are saying something out of concern and love as long as you tell him so.
2007-02-01 02:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How OLD are YOU? If you are the OLDER SISTER then you should try to 'talk to him' about the 'doubts you have' about him getting married, but if you are the YOUNGER SISTER then I think you should just 'butt out' ... if your PARENTS want to try to do something, that's up to them, but right now your brother just needs you to be a 'good sister' and to 'stick by him' no matter what happens ... and I'm sorry, but this is HIS life you are talking about, and HE and his fiancee are really the ONLY PEOPLE who 'really matter' in making this decision. So, if the wedding is definitely going to happen, be prepared to be 'in the wedding' and to smile for all you are worth, because who knows what will happen, and you don't want to be the 'ruining' of what might just turn out to be the BEST day of his life!
2007-01-31 09:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be as supportive as you can given the circumstances. Meaning don't throw them a party but be present because you and your parents are only pushing him away from you all and closer to her.
2007-01-31 09:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by Eboni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he asks for you opinion, and you tell him the truth, he will be mad because you are not supporting him. If he goes through with the wedding and later ends up divorced, he will still be mad because you were right. LOL.
2007-01-31 10:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sara J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is making a big step in his life and he needs you to be by his side to support him and i'm sure that he will never get married if he is knows that this girl is no good for him..
2007-01-31 09:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by judy abott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your parents need to mind your own business. He may be making a mistake but it is his to make and he's 19 years old...he's allowed mistakes and his family will be there to support him IF and WHEN his marriage falls apart.
2007-01-31 09:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by karen h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should mind your own business.. It may be a mistake for him to get married, but its HIS mistake to make. All you are going to do is piss him off.. he's a legal adult, you have no say in this.
2007-01-31 09:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your brother should know the pros and cons of marriage. He will do what he wants you cant stop him. He is an adult.
2007-01-31 09:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by Lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him. They say love is blind and he is probably blinded of the bad things about her
2007-01-31 09:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by andyramvzb 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋