here's my problem, i use to attend this school and i was always the good kid. but i got into some trouble... i was suspended for 10 days and i completely humiliated my mom and my school. my friends turned thier backs on me and i was forced to live off campus (it's a broading school).
i'm now at home and the past is in the past, but, i still have that sinking feeling in my stomach when ever i look at my yearbook and feel like i want to cry 4 i av messed up my life.And now i want to go to college and i need a reccomendation from the school, but i'm so afriad to ask for one. for i still see myself as the person they see me as and that is: "no good" wat should i do? my ques. is how do you get over the bad u have done and move on with your life? and please don't say therapy.
2007-01-31 09:16:08 · 6 answers · asked by Lexie 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
About getting that recommendation, I feel that you should confidently request one. You could write a letter stating that you fully understand the "trouble" that you caused and it's impact. That you have learned a very serious lesson from it. However, you need to move on and would appreciate it if they could give you a recommendation based on your academic history and not on a mistake that you have made. Re-iterate that you have learned from the trouble you've caused and you can even elaborate if you feel the need. (I don't know what kind of trouble, but you can make that judgement). Anyway, don't let it get you down because what you are going through is a very normal reaction after one has made a serious mistake. The positive thing you must not forget is that you are a good human being with character and that is obvious because you feel the things you are feeling after having done whatever you did. (Many people don't give a rats patooty). And also, just know that mistakes should be looked at as "opportunities for growth". Because we are here to learn and grow and you can only do so by learning from trial and error. The important thing is that you learn from it. Then you will always be a better person after it, no matter what. Good luck and don't let setbacks get you down, just move on and you will find the right path thats truly meant for you..
2007-01-31 09:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did. You realized you made a mistake. Some people don't. Now that is the past and there is nothing you can do about it. The only thing you can do is learn from it...like look where it got you and Im sure you won't go down that road again. So,now you can better the situation. Dont be afraid to ask anyone for a reccomendation. I think people should learn about regret, because it makes them a stronger person and now maybe you will have to work extra hard, but you still have many oppurtunities to change your life in the right direction. Some people dont learn from their mistakes and keep going down that tormented path. You dont seem to be that type of person. Do what you have to do to make it right. You want to go to college, go to college and start askin teachers for letters of reccommendation. As a matter of fact. I would print this out and show them how sorry you really are.
I hope this helped.
2007-01-31 10:32:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy ain't bad, but I'm not going there. So here you are wanting to go to college, but, according to you, you have ruined your life! WOW! What incredibly magnificent instance of insidious malfeasance could you have done that would ruin your life at your age? Did you kill somebody for kicks? Did you blow up any buildings? Being that you were suspended for 10 days, probably not. Right now, it may be hard to put into perspective that you have a good long time of life left and that what you have done has not ruined that. Everybody does something they regret later - maybe not get suspended for 10 days, but some do things that would have a harsher consequence. You have to first of all relax. Each day that passes puts what you have done farther away...know that each day you will be affected less and less....then imagine that you have moved forward a month...then a year...then 5...then 10....what you have done will become so insignificant that you realize that it in no way can affect your whole life....one day at a time...think positive and think forward..
2007-01-31 09:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by dashel_gabelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you are human and you made a mistake. Do not punish yourself for something you done in the past. God love you and will forgive you, ask him to forgive you and start your life over. You can recover and change your life for the best. Make sure you don't make the same mistake in the future. Hold your head up and ask God for strength to move on and not look back. He will forgive you as well as give you strength to change your life and move on. You can make your family smile again. Hope this help you don't give up you can change your life for the best.
2007-01-31 09:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by love_to_please_my_man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried contacting old friends to see if the old bridge is burned? It seems you have anxiety that may be relieved by communication with someone from the school.
If you had friends one of them has to have gotten over it by now.
You seem very smart your only set back is self confidence. Surround yourself with people who care about you.
Best of Luck
2007-01-31 09:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Terry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi lexie,
build up your self esteem, tell your self that you are a different person, you HAVE CHANGE so the year becomes new so you becomes new, go back to the school with confidence and apologise again, and ask politely, do something for your mother and father that they will be proud of also your friends.
trust me it will work.
sally
2007-01-31 09:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by sally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋