It seems so weird to me that you can be around a person, and genuinely feel a connection to them, but not know if they share the same feelings. It's strange. You would think that feeling a certain way towards a person, having feelings of trust, loyalty, deep caring, friendship, etc. would be a two way street. It seems to me that you wouldn't really develop those feelings unless you knew on some level they felt the same way. I'm sorry this doesn't make a lot of sense, but does anyone see what I mean? Thanks.
2007-01-31 09:13:24 · 5 answers · asked by T 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ha ha. I really appreciate the input, but I have to say I'm a little confused about the not living in reality comment. I'm a very grounded person. I didn't once say that this person I'm thinking of is madly in love with me, and I know this because how I feel towards her. Because I am in fact a logical person I can see the difference between how I feel and how others feel. What I think is weird is knowing that I can have deep feelings for a person, and a good rapport with them and a good friendship, without them feeling the same way. What is strange is that your feelings will develop no matter what they feel, in spite of the fact that you would think they feel the same judging by the connection you feel. I am totally aware of the fact it's one sided. It is just odd to me how these feelings progress.
2007-01-31 10:59:22 · update #1
i didn't use to think about that idea because it was just the way things were, and it made sense to me. people are just taught that everyone likes certain people and not others.
but there are moments lately where i think that it is so weird how much you can feel similar to a person and close to them, but they don't feel the same about you. if there is that major connection pulling you toward them, why aren't they pulled back to you?
its an odd feeling. knowing that there are people you like that may never like you. that all the wrong people WILL like you. that maybe a complete mutual connection could never be found.
2007-01-31 09:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by toxicPoison 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that not everyone thinks as you do. You must learn to read people a little better than I think that you do. It sounds like you're fantasizing a bit too much and need to plant your feet on planet earth.
You may love, like or appreciate a lot of people in your life who do not feel the same way toward you, and some of these people you may interact with for years; some of them may even be close to you.
I think that anyone with a little experience and common sense should be able to discern another person's feelings toward them, if they ignore personal biases and immutable and catastrophic desires.
2007-01-31 18:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi tanya
i'm with you on this all the way.. i think we often invent feelings in our mind that aren't really there. we see things we want to see..
so many times, i was convinced that things with a friend were going to progress to a "more than friends" stage, but in the end, i was totally wrong..
2007-01-31 17:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes. that makes total sense. = )
2007-01-31 17:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by ipodlady231 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everything is great until you mate with them and then it all turns to mush.
2007-01-31 17:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋