Why are adults so quick to judge teenagers and youth?

Question

Adults expect teenagers to act like adults, but then insist on treating us like children.

Answer 1

We all feel that whatever stage of life we are in is the important one.

Kids don't come with instructions. One moment there is this little life that glows when you enter the room and ask "why Daddy" "What's that" "What does this mean"

Hanging on your every word and all the answers are quick and easy.

When they begin to grow, you fear, you remember the child that thought a flame was beautiful and wanted to touch it.


Trust comes into the picture , Key to the house , key to the car.

You stand by and watch questionable decisions.

We watch this child keep more and more secrets and
watch their smile grow cold.

We love them but feel we must protect them from themselves.

Sometimes they evolve more than we.


(HERE'S THE ANSWER)

We don't recognize that you have arrived. All things are not mastered at the same time.


The more a parent loves , the harder it is to let go.

I have even seen Parents become adversaries.


Try to keep communication lines open.

For adults and Kids , You can't take words back and also examine what you do.

Answer 2

The concept of "childhood" is only a century and maybe a half old.
Children used to barely attend school- they were just the same type of slaves that every other working farmer/factory worker was.
Children would work the same fourteen-hour days adults used to, until the laws against child labor were instituted.
Children have always been allowed some form of play, but had plenty of responsibility also.
Today's children have very little understanding of the reagular world, but our society has changed too rapidly for the adults to devise a new system to handle that.
Also, the notion that we must not abuse our children has become a guilt complex that stops many parents from refusing an ice cream cone, an X-ox 360, or even a brand new car after graduation from high school.
The 1980's left us with a legacy of false self-esteem- we have this notion that "I'm OK, you're OK", even if not one child does anything to deserve esteem! Esteem is equal to respect. You earn that.
Well, not since this fake self-esteem nonsense.
Today's children do not have to earn much of anything, in many parts of our culture.
Usually, not as much in families of foreigners, who bring some common sense to our country.
And there are some Americans who knwo better, too.
But overall, many parents, etc., honestly think that kids should do what they're told, just because they're told.
Adults have forgotten that they were raised with some sort of consequences for defiance or irresponsibility. They became so automatically well-behaved (many of them), that they can't imagine why kids today would be so disrespectful, slothful, loud, lazy, spoiled, selfish, wasteful, attitudinal, arrogant, and abusive.
I substitute teach as of recently- and wow has the world changed for the worse.
But I know to blame the adults! And I tolerate only so much. and god help the bad parent who comes across me when I get my certification- I will find a direct way to tell them what's wrong with kids these days- them!

Answer 3

I will attempt this without a biased approach. Yes, as many people have previously stated, homosexuality is a sin. I believe homosexuality is a mental condition that can be prevented. If indeed homosexuality was genetic or you were born that way, the lifestyle or genes for this lifestyle would die. Therefore, eliminating homosexuals altogether. Now as per the Christian issue; We are not perfect for if we were Jesus would not have needed to die on the cross. We make mistakes, many Christians confuse the deed or lifestyle with the person that is in question. They have problems seperating these aspects and in return their discontent for the lifestyle spills over to the person. We are to love people, although love does not mean to tolerate an act of which God has deemed sinful. The idea behind hellfire and brimstone attitude is to 1) convict any one person of there sins 2) present them with their options if they continue in this lifestyle. Which by the way, there are only two, Heaven and Hell. People who do not confront a young teenagers curiosity, and display anger are likely to push them away. That is exactly why there is a problem of homosexuality, because for many years people chose to ignore issues there children were bringing to them or and a big or at that is sexual abuse can contribute to a homosexual lifestyle.

Answer 4

Because we adults often forget what it is like to be a kid or a teenager. My teenage son tells me that I am a cool mother. I am a strict Mom, but I relate well with him and his friends. I don't seek to be a friend to my son - I am his parent first and foremost. Still, I remember how it feels to be a kid and to think the way kids think and to feel the way they feel. Respect is a two-way street. Adults need to remember that if they want to be respected, they need to model it. I have seen far more maturity exhibited by kids and teenagers than I have by many adults. And this is coming from an adult. You have a very valid point!

Answer 5

always did , always will . just ask your folks ( seriously) if they were treated like a child and expected to act like an adult. the answer will be yes. it comes with the "learning how to cope" part of growing up. yes , i know it is going to be a hard couple of years, but take my word for it, you'll never even notice when the change into being treated like an adult happens. POOF! your an adult , reading some kids blog about being treated like a kid and then you'll realise you went through that exact thing only a few years ago.
many happy years to you
-joey(yes i'm 41 now and people stil treat me like a child sometimes)

Answer 6

Probably because most teenagers act like children. Note I said most, not all.

Parents expect their children to act like mature, responsible young adults, but often that's not the case. I've found in dealing with my stepdaughter, we have to treat her the way she acts, or she never "gets" that her behavior is unacceptable. Until a better way to handle her presents itself, her dad and I have to use what works.

Answer 7

Well, I probably asked the same thing as a teenager. Now I know. Kids are stupid. They are. Teenagers are at the point where they should be developing the skills to make decisions like an adult, but we all know they can't really do it just yet. They are ignorant of how the world works. So we try to get them to make intelligent, "adult" decisions while realizing we can't possibly trust them to do so.

Don't worry, most adults are just as stupid.

Answer 8

Adults are quick to judge teens for the simple fact that they were teens at one point in their life. I can't answer for all adults but a lot sure know what they're talking about. (If they're the sane type) The thing is they want us to take time and enjoy our youth but at the same time they want us to be responsible and recognize what we're doing with our lives.They just want us to lead responsible lives. I'm slowly realizing this.

Answer 9

Well, your at the divide between adults and children.

Teenagers often want the priviledges of adults, but don't take the responsibility.

Most of us understand your situation, but also have made many of the mistakes you will make. Foolish to try, but we often wish to save you the pain of making them.

Answer 10

That's just how adults are, but I feel your pain. The only thing I could say about that is to try acting older or tell them.