My husband and i got married when i was 21 and he was 23.He was an Australian here in the U.S.A as a pro-surfer i think he may have some sort of duel citzenship.Anyway i had just graduated from college and fell head over feet for but we seperated after a year.I shortly after found out i was pregnant with his son so i went and contacted him to inform him.He attended his sons birth and stuck around after for a little bit but we could not agree on anything so we split up.He moved back to Australia and i traveled to England for work and lived there for 6 months.I have traveled all over Europe for work with my son who is almost 7 now.For the record hubby did call me everyonce in a while to check on my son but never spoke to him though.He sent gifts to my parents house that my son did recieve worth about 620 dollars.He never paid child support though. Three weeks ago he called me he says he wants his family back Also he told me he wanted us to try again before we divorced?
2007-01-31 08:52:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We never leagally filed for divorce or seperation and he seems desperate to see his son?I dont get him why after all this time?
2007-01-31 08:54:32 · update #1
still have feelings for him but i feel very hurt and confused
2007-01-31 09:01:37 · update #2
People can sometimes come around at the wrong times or when it's too late. It's definitely not too late in your case though. You haven't divorced, and he is trying to make an effort with your son. Give the guy another chance. Do you still have feelings for him? Do you want him to be the father involved in your son's life? Most importantly, do you think you two will be happy together?
2007-01-31 08:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whats the worse you have to lose? 30 mins of your time? at least give it a chance, that way your son can at least have a father figure. if it doesnt work out, your son may still have a father figure in his life. unless he is some deranged pyscho serial killer, i think you dont have a whole lot to lose if he is trying. maybe he matured after 6 years? you never know until you give it a try. but thats just my honest opinion.
if you dont want to be bother, just send him divorce papers and end it quick and swift. the fact that you asked us, might mean you actually are curious yourself as to what he might bring.
2007-01-31 16:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by yesssssssss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why no divorce after all this time?Maybe he is feeling guilty about the boy and wants to do the right thing.Maybe he still has feelings for you.Like I said why no divorce after 6 years someone must have feelings somewhere.If you couldn't get along then ,I would think long and hard about it now.Talk to him and see what he wants.
2007-01-31 17:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by Wow!guitar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has matured since then and really wants to be a part of his son's life, and yours too. Whether or not you two can work it out, don't ever keep him from his son - unless he is abusive towards him (which it doesn't sound like he is).
2007-01-31 16:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that with time, he grew up and realized the mistake he made and is sincere about wanting to get backtogether. It is possible. But if you do get back together, you need to make sure that he is telling the truth and being sincere.
Hope that this helps. Take care and God Bless
2007-01-31 16:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man wanted his family that badly he would walk on hot coals for them,
More like he has nothing else on at the moment and you'll do for now,
Sorry to sound harsh but sounds like he's been a selfish pig
2007-01-31 16:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the one who has to be the judge as to his actions, but he has been very round-a-bout in his attention to his son and not much else. do you really want to do it. he has left a lot of 'water under the bridge' and has a lot of life experience during all this time.
it could be as callous as him simply hitting a 'dry patch', no women, and he wants you 'for a little while'.
if it were me, I believe I would want to see evidence of my ex partner's feelings towards me [without my help] and if its not there and he's using the child to get to me, for heaven's sake, think about it
HARD
2007-01-31 17:03:08 · answer #7 · answered by free thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your hubby to f-off cause he missed his chance. He is going to come back interfere in your and your sons life to realize that he doesnt want to get back together and he will leave again and you will kick yourself twice as hard for letting him come back.
2007-01-31 17:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does he say to this?? That he all of a sudden decides that NOW he wants his family back--sounds shady to me--is he in financial dire?? I would research what is going on with him before I would go further than a friendship--
2007-01-31 17:01:51 · answer #9 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause he has had his fun and reliezes your the best thing for him and he has finally stepped up to being a father..so heck give it a try and if it doesn't work out this time divorce him...good luck.
2007-01-31 17:01:31 · answer #10 · answered by samshel1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋