I've tried AA, not going out with mates and i've still got the craving to go to the offy to get a bottle. I'm in dispair, i know you might think that it's a will power thing but it's not that simple.
2007-01-31 08:38:15 · 28 answers · asked by christopher831@btinternet.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Check yourself into rehab and stay until you are clean and sober! I admire you so much for admitting you have a problem and you actually WANT to do something about it!
2007-01-31 08:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i dont no what its like being an alcoholic but i now what its like being the partner of one and i no its not easy for either partner. sometimes having 2 try a variety of things in one works more than just trying one. In most cases people drink heavy 2 hide something bad that has happened in their life so look back 2 why u started drinking so much, if there is try talking 2 some1 about it like a councillor, go 2 your gp and tell him your problem and that u want 2 quit he will get u into a clinic where they will detox u, set yourself up with aa meetings cos now you actually realise u have a problem which is the first step they may work for this time round and get yourself a hobby that you can do every day 2 take your mind off the cravings and a bit of will power you will be able 2 get sober. hope this helps you gl hope everything works out 4 u
2007-01-31 19:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by kerry w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have tried the AA thing but you weren't ready for the AA thing. You may have to go into a treatment situation to get the cravings under control but in the end you will find out that you can not do this ALONE! AA offers a place where you will find support from other like yourself who suffer from this disease, and your spouse should think about alanon because this is truly a family disease that needs to be treated seriously by all who are affected. Good luck mate~!
2007-01-31 16:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by gamerunner2001 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know it's not simple. My dad was a wonderful parent but it ruined his marriage and took his life in the end. Would it help if you quit looking at it as an issue of "ruining your marriage" and looked at the real issue? It can kill you. My parents never stopped loving each other, she just couldn't take any more than 36 years of the alcohol. After the divorce, they were the best of friends. Go figure. The George Jones song 'He Stopped Loving Her Today" still makes me cry and my dad has been gone 16 years. Good luck to you.
2007-01-31 16:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by 8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a drug called campral which you need to stay on for about a year which helps take the craving away ut won't stop you from drinking There is also something called antibuse which causes a bad reaction with alcohol and can make you feel quite ill if you drink other than that try re-hab
2007-02-04 13:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by robert b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what it is doing to your family so you are half way there the thing is there is no easy way its going to be long and hard you will need the support of a group like AA also talk to your GP as doctors can help you could ask about a drying out clinic
and there will be times you will relapse but just stick at it as its a long road
2007-02-04 10:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by top cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure wish you'd e-mail by b/f. He needs help too.
How about rehab? Maybe they can get you on a pill that will act negatively when combined with alcohol.
My b/f was thinking about hypnosis as well.
I'm happy for you to be able to recognize that you have a problem. And I hope you have the ability to kick this and live a fulfilling life. Good luck to you.
2007-01-31 16:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well done - go and see your GP and get some medical assistance - just remember the reason why you are trying to give it up. It won't be just that simple it will probably be one of the hardest things you will have to do in your life - it is an addiction and you need medical help to come off it.
2007-01-31 16:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have tried AA, hon, you have it bad, and yup, check yourself into a rehab place. If your alcoholic addiction is great, and on-going for years, and if you simply just try to stop, you could indeed kill yourself. Your heart has put up with that crap for so long, that you addiction is life-threatening, and abrupt cessation could kill you ---- ask any doc who deals with addictions.... there was an interesting one on Dr. G several months ago about this.....
Good luck, hon. If you really want to get this stuff out of your life, you probably can't do it by yourself. And you are not much of a husband, as you have admitted. Addicts of any sort are already in relationships.... it just isn't with their spouse. Addicts, hon, are just not available as spouses, partners, dads, or lovers.
2007-01-31 18:25:19 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This just happened to a friend of mine- his engagement is off bc of his frequent visits to detox and rehab. He moved out of his fiance's house and is actively attending AA- one meeting every day. He's had 30+ days of sobriety now, and a sponsor - luckily he's got the love and support of his family and friends, so I'm sure that makes everything easier.
The most important thing is that you WANT to change.
2007-01-31 16:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hey , u gotta wanna stop and put a end to the wreckage that its causing , i have quit for 2 yrs now and i was bad off . maybe try AA it worked for me and millions of other but u gotta want it man, and be prepared to make some changes and listen to others of what they say , we in AA have all been in the same place one time or other. if u want help i can help u .
2007-01-31 16:45:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋