One partner of a gay couple that I know was on vacation seeing family & he hadn't seen his boyfriend for 3 days until he showed up to play cards, & they didn't even hug or anything or say I missed you. I'm sure it was because they were in a public place but I found that to be so sad that they would actually worry about what anyone else thought when if I had a husband & he walked in I'd hug him & say welcome home. Will there come a time when you just don't give a hoot & show public affection? I'm not talking about making out on a pool table but holding hands or anything else that straight people do should be what gay couples do. The couple I know don't even sit next to each other which I find so so sad. What's your opinion? Bashers don't even bother answering
2007-01-31 08:34:20 · 16 answers · asked by gitsliveon24 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes it's sad. Although I'm not partnered, I greet many of my gay friends with a hug and a kiss. I can often be seen holding hands with a friend, especially walking around Disneyland.
2007-01-31 08:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by behrmark 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
While I believe the gay cause has come a long way, it still has a long way to go before being accepted by mainstream society.
As a straight woman, while I don't really understand the gay lifestyle, I DO have respect and tolerance for it. I feel it's not my place (nor anyone's place, for that matter) to go around slamming a bible over the heads of gay people. I just treat gay people like I treat almost anyone else - with love and respect. (I say almost anyone, because I think the only way I would treat a pedophile, if I knew someone was one, would be to strangle them or something.)
Personally, I wouldn't have a problem with seeing a gay couple showing affection, but, obviously, some people do. If I was in a gay relationship, I would get a little weary of all the bashing, so I would just not show affection in public for my partner. It would make me feel bad, but putting up with all of the hate would make me feel worse. I think the very example you raise is why a lot of gay couples seek to live in areas where there is a higher percentage of gay population.
I agree with you - it's a sad state of affairs. We seem to have figured out so well how to be racist, hateful, intolerant and judgemental towards others. The world would be a better place if we learned acceptance, tolerance and respect for others.
2007-01-31 16:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by loveblue 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The time has come. I dont give a hoot. If I want to hug my girlfriend in public because I havent seen her in a while, I will. When she and I lived in different states, I would fly to see her about every 3 months. When I got off the plane at the airport, we hugged like there was no tomorrow and held hands all through the airport. I care more about her opinion than anybody elses. I missed her so much and was so focused on her, that nobody else existed therefore I wasnt worried about what anybody thought.
2007-01-31 17:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by tmills883 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for them but.....
I'm not quite like that at all. My other-half and I haven't ever spent time apart but if we had I'd be sure to give him a huge hug when he got back regardless of who was there. If someone had an issue with me showing the fact that I love my mate they can hit the door. To be welcome in MY HOME you WILL accept me and my other-half as well as the relationship that we have, otherwise you can leave and forget that you have ever known me.
2007-01-31 17:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all our time together we've never been apart. Except for one night when he went to the beach house and I had to wait until morning to pick up the dog at vets but he didn't want to wait so I said, go ahead. Well, serves him right because he wanted to party and I didn't tell him but my old aunt and uncle were there for the night too. ~Surprise~ LOL I do it without even noticing around family.
2007-01-31 16:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a choice that each couple needs to make on their own. If either party feels their physical safety is threatened, and they aren't willing to risk that, then I don't criticize anyone for holding back. That said, I don't ever want to find myself living in an area where I ALWAYS feel my physical safety would be threatened. I for one refuse to live in fear.
2007-01-31 21:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by Atropis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's what we have come to do. and we accept it..at least until lately and the tide seems to be swinging..at least where I live in the gay village in vancouver...but out in the general public in rural areas..on airplanes..yes that's what we have to do to avoid the confrontations.
2007-01-31 16:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps they have had an unfortunate experience greeting each other. There are some unpleasant peopl around that would delight in making them uncomfortable.
Rose P.
2007-01-31 19:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by rose p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st off, please disregard the LOSER up there who is trying to be me, but lacks the intelligence to do so. Now, my answer to your question is that i'm one of the few who have never really cared about what others have to think about me showing my girlfriend any love. I am never disrespectful & heavily make out in public but i wouldnt do it if i were straight either! But others opinion about my lifestyle is worth about 3 pennies to me. If that.
2007-01-31 16:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
yes it is unfortunate that these guys didn't feel comfortable expressing their love in public. We all need to learn to express our love and not be afraid. the more the public sees it, the sooner they will be accepting of it.
2007-01-31 17:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋