My fiance is saying that I will never actually become a marine biologist and he thinks that I should stop my schooling for it because it's "irrational", even though it has been my lifelong dream. I'm not sure what I should do.. just drop out of school, or keep following my dream..
2007-01-31 08:30:57 · 6 answers · asked by industrialbug 2 in Science & Mathematics ➔ Biology
It its only irrational if you become one and don't want to. As a budding biologist, I can tell you that it's not easy. By no means is it not achievable, otherwise I wouldn't be in grad school working on my PhD. If it's what you love then i say go with it, but if you can live without it then maybe consider other jobs. Of course this is without taking the advise of your fiance ever again unless he apologizes!!!! The only obstacles for you are 1) your willingness to endure the years of school required? 2) getting into research before you apply for grad school so that you have good letters and know you can handle the work since some people are not happy experimentalists but love the theorizing part. 3) Can you be fine with the low pay 4) the numerous postdoctoral/research scientist positions you will undoubtedly run through before you get independent funding and a faculty position with space for your own lab. Just to shamelessly pitch for my school, as a grad student at UCSD I know that much collaboration occurs with Scripps, so there is never an excuse for not looking into what you find interesting at UCSD since we have someone on campus that could make your experiment work. Also Scripps is awesome, you should go there. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-31 19:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by rgomezam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for twenty years, it is successful because we don't tell each other what to do.
He should be encouraging you, not telling you what not to do. I take it that he has not been to university, and becoming a marine biologist would make you seem more successful than him.
Getting an education is never a waste of time, even if you don't achieve everything you planned for. Or, you may decide to branch out half way through you course, it doesn't matter.
Is your whole life going to be about what you could have been?
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2007-01-31 16:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Labsci 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Evaluate your dream.
1. Is it realistic?
2. Is it practical?
3. When you've graduated, where will you work and what will you do?
If you have no plans for what you will be doing after graduation, you need to either make some, or change majors to something that isn't so blue-sky. Sorry.
Now - apply those same criteria to your fiance. Do you know what the two of you will be doing after marriage? Do you approve of his plans? Does he approve of yours? If not, the two of you need couples counseling.
2007-01-31 17:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...the word says all: fiance. ex-fiance. Note this:
"...I'm a Marine Biologist, I remember my EX-fiance didn't want me to do this..."
C'mon! Freewill it's the prescious thing for mankind
2007-01-31 16:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by »»§@N†I@ĞǾ2Ụ™«« 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his butt out. This sounds like the start of grand relationship. Next thing he will tell you when to come home, where to shop.
2007-01-31 16:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jim R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont understand why it is irrational
if thats what you want to do then do it.
why give up something you love... to find a job you will hate
if you are happy with ur job and ur goals and ur life
then he should be to..
pathetic
2007-01-31 17:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋