my ex and i have been broken up for 10 months recently he has been calling me everyday at work sometimes 2 times a day and then i asked him if he wanted to go to the movies and then he kept making excuses. i told him i dont have time for a phone relationship and i havent heard from him for a week. he left me and i still love him. why is he calling all the time then? why is he doing this? he is getting jelous and asking where i have been who im with and what i have been doing. what is with this?? should i send him an sms and tell him i miss him?
what should i say to him? and how do i say it?
2007-01-31 08:18:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i gave a bad rating coz this person told me to suck something not appropiate. i mean look at his name doesnt that say it all???
2007-01-31 10:56:04 · update #1
No. Look honey...the only reason this guy is coming around asking questions is Not because he wants you back...its because hes curious. Hes being controlling. Him calling you multiple times a day at work and home is his way of checking up on you, to see what you are doing and whom you are doing it with. He probably considers you one of his possesions and doesnt want anyone else to have you. If he would have wanted you back...he would have said so by now. Its a good thing now that u know what he's doing so you can move on with ur life. Its not fair to you that ur waiting for him to see the light, cuz you'll be waiting forever! You need to stand up for yourself and if he calls and ask who or what u are doing, tell him it is currently none of his business, that he lost that privelege of knowing ur every move when he decided to let u go. Good Luck sweety....remember time heals all wounds...and trust me with this...Ive been there!
**Another thing...if u are the person THUMBS DOWNing people cuz they are telling u the truth but u dont want to hear it...then why ask the question...everyone can see hes using you, except...YOU! If you want us to lie to you just to make u feel better than say so...otherwise this is just wasted advise!!! =(**
2007-01-31 08:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he is calling you non-stop the fact that he is doing this and not implying that he misses you but is just being inquisitive just shows that maybe he has been thinking about you. If you tell him that you miss him then you're putting yourself in a position to be used. It's been ten months and you haven't talked to each other until now, you don't miss him, you just miss what you two had. You have been broken up way too long for him to be doing this to you now. Move on because he's wasting your time. If you love someone how can you go ten months without speaking to them? That's ridiculous. He shouldn't be calling you at work, that could get you in trouble. You and he are not together so he doesn't have the right to know what you're doing or what you've been up to. You asked him to a movie and he made excuses, so basically he wants to get your emotions back in the game so he can have sex with you. The moment you give him what he wants he'll be gone again. So no, don't waste your time. You did the right thing. If he does call you again, don't answer his calls. If you ever need to talk I'm here. Good luck sweetie.
2007-01-31 08:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well kid here you go let me explain like if i were him...
He misses you..
and thats why he called but he's a guys so he wont say it
and the fact that you told him that you didn't have time for phone relationshipe just made him mad..
but hey his loss..
ok but you still love him right..
so call him and ask him straight out the best thing for you ywo is honesty trust me he will aprecieate it more instead of playing these phone games
there is no need to put yourselfs through this ifyou two have feelings for each other and it seems like you both do trust me just do it and you will bot be happy again..
dont tell him you miss him cause that gives him an edge and guys do stupid things when they think they are in charge..
just ask him straight out if he still likes you..
"like i said" before..
and yes he is jealouse it's a guy thing dont ask just accept it..
and uhmm be honest and have him be honest with you..
and if he says no then walk away pick yourself up and move on ok but at least you tried and did everything you could do and you could and you can walk away knowing that..
ok good luck..
2007-01-31 08:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by rm4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to leave you alone, you have broken up 10 months ago for a reason, him calling you at work and not wanting to go to a movie is a very fishy situation and quite worrisome. He wants to know where you are all day and is jealous and inquisitive on top of that. That's not right and if I were you I'd be careful.
Nobody has the right after 10 months to ask about such things.
Jealousy can be a dangerous thing.
2007-01-31 08:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he really wanted to be back with you, He would've come to you face to face and talked to you. I'm sure you had a very good reason why you broke up with him 10 months ago? Can you handle the same problems again? Honestly, I don't think he loves you. You deserve a better man. Next time he calls, tell him to stop the nonsense.
2007-01-31 08:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's a psycho. He's manipulating you.
He made excuses NOT to go out with you??? BELIEVE HIM!
He does NOT want to see you! He just enjoys watching you squirm every time he calls.
It's a power thing.
DUMP HIM! dump him now. Don't look back. Stop calling him. Stop taking his calls.
What is he jealous of? He won't see you, but he doesn't want you to see anyone else??
Find a guy who cares about YOU.
He's a jerk. Seriously. DUMP him. D-U-M-P him.
And if you DON'T - put 9-1-1 on speed dial.
2007-01-31 08:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personaly i think somethings up.Mabe another woman or man.But tell him no more phone calls and if he wants to know where you are tell him it's none of his business.But tell him your boyfreind is tired of waiting for you to make a decision but i really think you could do better.Don't tell him anything but get lost serious.Peace Victorio
2007-01-31 08:26:50 · answer #7 · answered by walter_nahbexie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
life is too short to worry so much about 1 guy..tell him straight up .u want him back yes or no that s it ..if he say no ...shhs t..just move on that was just little bump in life..u get use to it...b strong
2007-01-31 08:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by Wow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's just looking for some emotional support. He wants his freedom but he doesn't want you moving on. You're his crutch. You'll have to kick the crutch out from under him. It's best for you. It's best for him.
2007-01-31 08:23:47 · answer #9 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋