My boyfriend of 4 years is 24 and I'm 28. I'm frustrated because my biological clock is ticking and he has no intention to marry me soon. He said he will marry me in 2010, but by then, I'll be 32! Am I wasting my time here? I love him so much, but I don't think I can wait 3 or 4 more years like this. Should I break up with him? By the way, he a teacher, but no money, talks about buying dirt bike, off roading trucks, etc.... Ladies, what should I do? Is older men better? I've never dated older men.
2007-01-31 08:17:47 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just because your biological clock is ticking.....Lmao....that clock is going to be ticking for sometime.
Did you ever think that maybe he just does not want to get marry yet.
sound like your using the ticking clock thing to get him to marry you.
We tell girls wait ,take your time ,enjoy life, have fun,see the world, well the same go's for men.and it sound like that is just what he's doing and that is okay ,remember it is his life .
as for you going for en older man that's totally up to what ever you feel that is right for you.
we can tell you what we think, but your going to fallow your hart.
But I'll tell you this the only thing different between a young man and an older man is the price of their toy's.
your going to find men in their 30's 40's and 50's that don't wont to get marred.
I do believe you love him, but don't push or you'll push him away.
Now I wouldn't won't to Wait no ten years to get marred.
2007-01-31 09:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by ღ♥ஐcookie1ஐ♥ღ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you feel you have allot of time invested in this relationship. He is 24 but mentally how old is he? If he is not interested in getting married after dating for 4 yrs Forget it. I am sorry. I dated a guy for 10 years marriage was always after he did this and that never happened I later found out that he got married after dating someone else for 1 yr. I moved on although it was painful. A good friend told me one day I would look back and say why did I waste my time being upset over a jerk like him. She was right I said that when I met my husband and after 6 months he talked about getting married, 6 months later I was engaged and 1 yr after that married. You need to find someone who has the same goals as you The marriage will come soon after that.
2007-01-31 08:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the significance of 2010? If you have been together for 4 years and things are good and moving in that general direction, there should be no reason to wait until a specific date. But don't feel you have to rush bc of age, or a 'ticking' clock. People now-a-days are waiting to have their careers and lives successful, before adding a family to the equation. Have you done everything you wanted in your single life? Do you have the same goals for your future?
2007-01-31 08:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve what you want out of life. 4 years is a long time to wait especially if you've already been together for 4 if you're ready.
Men, you can disagree all you want but I've seen it 100 times over. But Men marry when they are ready and not a moment sooner. They don't marry because they are head over heels in love with the woman they marry because they are ready to finally settle down and make that lifelong commitment. If you push them or threaten them they might give in, but to what expense? Do you think it will last? Chances are... not so much.
I know that in 2.5 years I'll be ready to be married (we've been together already 3), I say 2.5 because that's when my son will be out elementary school (he goes to a private school) and he's on scholarship. If I were married, he would not qualify, so right now it's all about him. But don't think that in 2.5 years I wont throw my relationship down the toilet if he's not ready, I deserve to have what I want, and that's what it is.
2007-01-31 08:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first of all He's young! Of course marriage is the last thing on his mind at this age they are still bachelor's in their minds. I know how you feel about the biological clock thing, but if you really think you can no longer wait than weigh the negatives verse the positives. Hmm, no money means he can't support you, dirt bike...thinking of himself. see my point. there are guys out there on your level. Maybe older guys are better but not all of them. Your time Will come you either have to relax and enjoy the ride, or take him as he is and take a separate road.
2007-01-31 10:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he's ready he'll ask you for your hand. Why are you in such a hurry? If you're going to leave a good man because you are selfish and want to get married asap, then you might as well let him go and find someone else. Women are more mature than men, but in this case I'm not sure, and that's why he wants to buy toys. You have to let him live a little bit before settling down. Quit badgering him about marriage, maybe if you quit nagging, he'll want to marry you sooner than what he says. Think about it...Who wants a nag for a wife? Quit nagging!
Live a little bit with him! I'd love it if my hubby got a dirt bike, some snow mobiles, jet ski's, all of that stuff! It keeps you young and plus there's nothing more fun than riding in the fast lane! By a dirt bike and join him!
2007-01-31 08:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I married at 33 so whats the big deal. We were together 11 years when we got married. My cousin was with her husband for 16 by the time they married she had her first child at 38.
as far as older men..they won't necessarily be ready for marriage either. My husband is 13 years older than me, he was no more ready to get married they I was. Neither of us were in a hurry.
2007-01-31 11:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you would like to at least get married right away within the year or you are walking. Consider that..walking cause he didnt suite your needs. Thats a shame but sometimes men say that and have no intention of really commiting either. Id let this fish go even for a while so he can make up his mind.
2007-01-31 09:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't marry you after 4 years then his talk of 2010 is all smoke and mirrors. Move on and if your biological clock is ticking go for men older than you, up to around 35. You will likely find more mature and financially stable men in that group.
2007-01-31 08:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
It's really hard to say, I was dating my b/f for 7 yrs til we married and i thought my clock was ticking, it was wasting my time but he was so wonderful and there for me and my two kids whose dad wasn't and still isn't. Now we have a toddler but she was born w/downs yet i was 33 when i got preg, but i felt that my waitin on him could've been the cause of this. I don't feel that way now, i say, wait a little bit longer, at least til ur 30-31, depends on how u feel and if it will grow, good luck.
2007-01-31 08:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by chris-69@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋