2007-01-31 08:14:27 · 25 answers · asked by edwin t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Either way your girlfriend is not going to forget what happened, so for all those who say get an abortion I don't know how that would help her, it could be that if she had the baby that she could look at it from a stand point of something good coming out of a horrible experience. The decision to keep the baby is hers you really shouldn't try to pursuade her one way or the other, but you should definitely support her decision and be there for her, if you sincerely love her.
2007-01-31 11:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by Forever_Young 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the others who say its up to the woman. If she decides to keep the child, then you will have to respect that and decide if you are man enough to go through the childs life acting as a father, without hatred.
If you can do that, you will be a bigger man than most, in fact bigger than almost all.
You must also address the issue if you have concerns about bringing up a child that isn't yours (many men do that without a problem) or if you have fustration because she was raped.
There is no easy nor simple answer to this problem, but if you can give her 100% now, then you are on the right road. If you think you can't, it would be best for her, the child and you, if you got out of the picture.
2007-01-31 18:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the point of the question was missed, and an absurd question it is at that.
Your question implies that the question is about the boyfriend's position, not the girlfriend. "If YOUR girlfriend....would YOU...knowing that the baby is not YOURS".
Implicit in your question is "if my girlfriend is raped, am I obligated to be a father figure to the baby if it's not mine".
The answer is, if you're not married, you really don't have any say in such an important matter for the girl in question. She has a decision to make, and you really don't have any right to influence it one way or another. You simply have to decide what your response will be to her decision.
I noticed most people took this as an "abortion or not" question, which it isn't. It's about the boyfriend's obligations, if any. Such is the alacrity the topic of abortion generates.
2007-01-31 17:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To Steph: You know a lot of girls aren't on birth control because they are not sexually active. You don't plan on getting raped!
As a female that has been raped, and thankfully did NOT get pregnant, I don't know if I would have kept the baby. I didn't have to make that choice. Thank God! I had enough on my plate at that time.
However, since I am not a man I can not answer the true question at hand.
2007-01-31 16:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are going through this: my condolenses.
With that being said, I would not want her to keep the baby. I know she would be going through a horrible time, but if she choose to keep the baby I would have to leave. Call me an A*S but I would have to. I would never love or care for the child and the child would pick up on these feelings, and they don't need that growing up.
Sorry.
2007-01-31 16:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by Floss 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this a very hard question, and you have the right to make it. But I think the hardest thing is what happened to your girlfriend, the rape. I think this is what you should think about. Because she must be very frightened about what happened to her.
And the decision if she is to keep the baby is absolutely hers. I think you should stay next to her whatever she decides, if you really love her.
2007-01-31 16:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by fidel 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a female I could not keep the baby and always be reminded of what had happened, but if you are strong enough to work through it I think its great. Don't forget what happened to your girlfriend wasn't her fault.
2007-01-31 16:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by Weiners and Beans 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as far as Stephs comment goes.. who the heck are you to critize for someone not taking birth control? did you not see RAPE???? thats the issue here!
if you both decide you can raise this child together and love him as you would your own than go for it. its not the childs fault on how he was conceived. it would take a strong man to be able to over look it but it would probably strengthen your relationship. you both might want to get some counceling and see where you are at emotionally with this. I wish you both the best!!
2007-01-31 16:22:54 · answer #8 · answered by Life*goes*on 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTLY NOT!! That is a tramatic time in her life and a painful memory She would probably likt to forget!! I DO NOT believe in abortions but I believe that this is a exception to the rule. The child would only remind her every time she looked at it of that aweful experience she endured, what an aweful crime!
2007-01-31 16:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by electra25 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a woman I would not keep the baby or go through the pregnancy. I wouldn't go through that nor would I want my husband to.
2007-01-31 16:48:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋