Ok been happily married 16 yrs to a great guy who is sweet,loving and VERY good to me well anyways last yr between january 11 and march 11 no sex(he didnt intiate at all)but in middle of febrary 1 night when he thought i was sleeping(HE WAS ON COUCH WATCH TV AND I WAS IN BED BOTH IN SAME ROOM)i saw him masturbating.The next day i told him what i saw and at first he denied it then admitted it and said "i was thinking of u"(have my doubts about that)U see january 11 we had sex and i got tired of intiating MOST of the time so i thought i would wait for him but a month went by but nothing then i saw him masturbating so i figured if he would rather do that then anything with me then let him so another month went by before we didnt anything..And no the answer isnt cheating cause i know the man he is a good guy,a great husband and wouldnt hurt me like that..He said he couldnt give me a reason for no sex for 2 months..So my question is was i partly to blame for no sex for 2 months.
2007-01-31 08:00:53 · 4 answers · asked by lauren l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way everything has been back to normal since then but just wanted to know if i was partly to blame for those 2 months..My 1 friend says yes i was and maybe he is right.
2007-01-31 08:03:26 · update #1
You need to sit down and talk to him about this. If you are always the one to initiate sex, then maybe he thinks if you don't, then you aren't available. He needs to understand that you were waiting for HIM to take the lead once in awhile. Communicate, communicate--this is the key. No one is a mind reader, regardless of how long you have been married. He misunderstood the 'rules', and you need to set him straight! Glad you are back on track....is it because YOU took the lead again???????
2007-01-31 08:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont take so many notes on the man and rip up the reminder calender!! ~LOL~.As far as initiating sex, he will come to you when he wants it.Masturbation is not a bad thing.It is a good thing.He probably was thinking of you and creating a fantasy while did his thing.Sex does slow down some as we get older too.You seem to have a good marriage going there.Try not to imagine problems where there are none..Good luck
2007-01-31 17:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by Meemi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is a good thing.. I loved to watch my hubby do it.. but, on the other hand, why does he have to initiate sex.. hell men deal with enough rejection everyday...lol... who wants to come home and get a turn away from their mate?... so anytime you want it.. roll him over and get on.. it'll be a great ride...lol. And if you see him jerking off.. go lend him a hand or a mouth
2007-02-04 15:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by CottonTail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was over a year ago, let it go.... be happy in the NOW.
2007-01-31 16:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋