Or your boyfriend/husband/lover... What would you do?.. would you go home and cry? ... is it no big deal?
2007-01-31 07:43:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I will choose a best answer... cause I just want to know what to do with MY fiance!!
2007-01-31 07:45:21 · update #1
I have a really bad temper, I am an artist and so was my beloved grandfather and my uncle. My mom is pure Hungarian and dad is a Spanish/Ukrainian/polish mix. So both physically and spiritually I am a human nuclear device.
My point is that my fiance will be a dead man, and I don't mean hurt, I mean dead.
My birthday is decidedly and categorically NOT something you forget.
Now. To prevent such an atrocity from EVER happening to you again, I suggest you make sure that your fiance knows that your birthday is coming up MONTHS in advance, since he will need to make this year up to you for as long as he lives.
My birthday, according to my fiance, is the day the sun, stars and moon were brought together in order to create the love of his life.
Same goes for you. Train him well NOW, so you won't have to do this when you are married.
2007-01-31 07:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well forgetting a loved ones birthday is more than just that, if this person means something to you then you would remember the day that precious someone came into your life, or the day they were born, or any other days that are important to the one you love. Why would he forget a day that is so significant to your own life? Maybe you two should seriously rethink you're engagement. Is he going to forget you're wedding day and show up the day after? For the rest of your life is it going to be no big deal for all the other special engagements? The fact that you asked this question shows me that birthdays mean a lot to you, if they don't then don't worry he'll be forgetting more important things. If they do, and he doesn't make it up to you in a big way, and genuinely seem apologetic then leave him, because it's going to get worse. Good luck sweetie!
2007-01-31 07:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A few years ago I would have been very hurt and not said anything. But one year my husband got a bit carried away - he bought me a birthday cake, and nothing else - and I was furious. So we went down the high street and I marched to the jewellers and told my husband that I wanted THAT pair of earrings, today. And if he didn't buy them that day, then it was to be THAT pair (more expensive). He got the message.
If he is your fiancee, tell him you're angry and you expect to have some recompense - it doesn't have to be an expensive pair of earrings, but you're worth more than this.
Birthdays are important to women - my husband doesn't go overboard now, but he knows what is expected of him. And he plans my surprises now and I appreciate the efforts, because I know it isn't natural!
2007-01-31 07:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is notorious for forgetting birthdays, anniversary & my pet peeve is when he forgets Mothers Day. At first I thought that if I REALLY spoilt him on his b-day & such it would make him remember...no luck there. Then he started getting me what I refer to as truck stop gifts...you know cruddy things you'd find at a road side gas station...sunglasses, baseball cap, things like that.
So what I started to do is keep a file folder with helpful gift suggestions...flyers from jewellry stores with the exact item circled, photocopy for local spa from the phone book that kind of thing. I pulled out the file folder a couple of weeks before Xmas and gave it to him. And it worked...Xmas I got everything I wanted...EXACTLY what I wanted.
Guys don't dwell on dates like we ladies do...it goes beyond their basic thought process. So remind him, put post-it notes everywhere, come right out & say it..."Hey it's my birthday this weekend & I want to go for dinner & go dancing"
Try it...good luck!
2007-01-31 08:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl i would so pissed off if my fiance had forgot my birthday. one because that is something special, your bday is like the most important day of them all. and especially if he doesnt have a proper excuse. that is just like him missing a game or something. this is something special and he forgets your bday then god only knows what else he will forget but im the long run bring this to his attention and talk about it forgive him but dont forget and best luck in the future
2007-01-31 07:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How does he treat you otherwise? Is he always self-centered? If so, I would wonder if you should stay with him.
If he isn't normally a jerk, I would ask him if he remembered it was your birthday. Maybe he got his days confused or he has a big surprise planned. Tell him that it hurt you that he didn't remember. If you get angry, that will only make him defensive. Instead, if he knows you are hurt, he'll do his best to make it up to you. Guilt works well.
2007-01-31 07:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by Medical Disaster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had this happen to me... it hurt. And I told him about it. He let me down & this bothered him a great deal... He "redeemed" hisself (his words) and I got a great weekend from him with a very nice gift! Everyone is different... How you go about telling him is up to you! If it bother's you, then tell him so. How he reacts is something you'll have to find out! REMEMBER, we cannot read each others minds!
2007-01-31 07:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by T. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset. It's one thing to have no money or something but to forget that's bad. I would hope he is making it up to you and letting you know just how special you are to him. Being your fiancee just makes forgetting worse.
2007-01-31 07:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No need crying. He will be embarassed when he finds out that he dropped the ball. Tell him politely and I bet he makes it up to you in spades.
Oh! - And hand him a towel to wipe the egg off his face!
2007-01-31 07:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, with the way I have to work and all, it is just another day. I would get over it.
2007-01-31 07:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by Derek Wildstar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋