Well she cheated on me with her friend. She told me they only kissed. I told her I don't want you seeing him again, she said she won't. She saw him 3 more times before she finally ended their relationship. I broke up with her and now she is begging me to forgive her and be with her again! She leaves me constant voice msgs. crying about how much she is sorry and how much she misses me! I know she feels bad b/c she doesn't get any sleep, she's not eating well and she's always down since this happen. I love her with my heart but , i don't know if I can trust her again.
She says she would never do it again and will do anything to be with me even be bed buddies just to see me! Things to know : We've been dating for 1 yr and I'm 21 and she's 18.
2007-01-31 07:39:30 · 11 answers · asked by psyc13_mind 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Forgiveness: Wrong do'er should:
1. Ask for forgiveness. Sincerely, and whole heart-fully of their own desire.
2. Answer your questions you have about why she wronged you.
3. Make an statement/ contract saying she'll not do this again.
4. You have to assign penance (a way to make her act better).
You've done all of these things, and she's resisted you all the way hasn't she? You probably confronted her instead of her willingly telling you; danger sign ... She's asking for forgiveness (good) ... but her penance (not to see him again) she broke.
Should you try this again ... you need to determine what you want from this relation ship ... what you're willing to offer ... what you want in return. It's best to have this conversation with her at least 3 times (different dates) before you decide if you should or should not mend relationship. Treat the first date like it was your FIRST DATE ... dress up ... do something nice ... Treat the second date like you've dated for 3 months - still dressy, a little less romantic ... and treat the third date like she's the dog that cheated on you. These different environments will bring out her true intentions. If she passes all three dates ... then treat her to a fourth date that's like you've never had before --- for both of you have then earned it and should rejoice in celebrations.
2007-01-31 07:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your girlfriend may be alittle immature. Give the relationship a break and see how it goes. If you both truly miss each other so much you will find ways to bump into each other or run across each other's paths. Once a person will lie/cheat they most likely will do it again. It is not a good personality trait, but it is a trait nonetheless. Is your ex-girlfriend telling you she can't sleep, eat, etc. to get you to feel bad, instead of doing things to repair any damage she caused, apologizing, making amends, etc.? It sounds to me like she is very self-centered. Don't jump into being "bed-buddies" until you are sure this is the relationship you think it is and want it to be. Take it easy. If you think you want to start dating her again, start slow. Dates to the movies, bowling, etc. Spend only a few hours with her each time and see where it all goes. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-01-31 07:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one knows the rules when they start out. It's scary having one person you connect to. Yet, when I married, I had friends and my husband was very calm about me thinking about those old friends. He was compassionate and generous and told me all women would dream or think of the others but it was wiser to stop those relationships in order for us to find our own pace. This was very true. Eventually, others realized they could not tempt us. We became, we, our, us and refused to meet with them until our mate was available to come too. Girlfriends/boyfriends have to sorta play house a little till others get the drift. You can be a couple. No after office or class hours without the other for awhile. Always say, Let me check with my mate when we are available. After a time the others won't think of seperating you. It can work. Say we will have to discuss this... using we, us, and ours... at all times. good luck. forgive... we have to learn at that age.
2007-01-31 07:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by nanbeloved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is really young. So are you. If you love her then give her a chance. I think you guys really need to talk about why she cheated. Did she love him? was she unhappy or bored? Do you trust her? What can she do to regain your trust. Just talk. You tell her how it felt to be betrayed. There may be a chance for you guys to make it work. You have to truly forgive her though. If you dont trust her you will be in living hell wondering what she is up to. Good luck.
2007-01-31 07:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by cutencurley_05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to you. But I'm assuming you don't want to be with her, but you're asking us in order to reassure you that your making the right decision. But once a cheater, always a cheater. She's lied to you, cheated, and did things behind your back. Do you think you want to do that EVER again?
2007-01-31 07:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 06:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know.. well see i cheated on my boyfriend and after that idk i realized you know how much i hurt him and everything, he showed me that he isnt always going to be there for me and i wised up and i havent cheated again he is back with me but he tells me alot that he doesnt trust me and brings it up alot just to make me feel bad and thats fine cause it does make me feel like **** but i deserve it because i did that to him so if you love her and really think she is the one then.. stay with her and make her realize that your not always going to be there! Hope it helps ..
2007-01-31 07:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by Pretty in Pink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Especially at that age. Girls at that age change their minds as often as their underwear.
2007-01-31 07:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jorge B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a chance,start by not taking the relationship serious and see if she can handle it.if she can then she will never cheat again.
2007-01-31 07:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by prettyg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater!
2007-01-31 07:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋