What would you do if you were dining out at a local restaurant and saw your cousin's spouse hugged up and kissing someone that was not your cousin? Would you tell your cousin? Would you go over to the table to say hello?
2007-01-31 07:30:35 · 18 answers · asked by wonderingwifenga 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Definitely go and say hello to let them know you have caught them in the act. I would tell your cousin that you saw their spouse in the restaurant that day. If they ask was he/she with someone say yes but did not recognize the person.
2007-01-31 07:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Go over to the table and say hello... put the cousin's spuse on the spot and let him/her know that if he doesn't come clean you'd tell your cousin.
The sad part id that if you go and tell your cousin it'll cause some fights between them but unless you have hard proof like a picture to show your cousin, they'll make up and get back together after a while and you'll look like the bad guy there...
I had the same exact thing happen to me a few times, when I told the person that was being cheated on it always back fired... and when I confronted the cheater it made the guy really think twoce before ever cheating in his girl again....
You should have taken a pic with your phone!
2007-01-31 13:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by Shelley S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes that's a tough one. I think I would keep my mouth shut but I would feel really bad. I wouldn't have the guts to go over and say hello, but that would have been the best thing to do. I think I would have let the spouse see me, and wonder if I'm going to say anything or not.
Maybe you could send an anonymous letter telling your cousin to watch their spouse more carefully because they were seen at a restaurant with someone else on such and such a date.
2007-01-31 07:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hows this for an answer. My Best friend, BEST BEST, friend, I was her maid of honor. Drove 15 hours to be in her wedding. Loved her to earths end. Her hubby was great too. Had their 3rd child, I was babysitting, they both came to pick up 3 week old...I went to the kitchen to get bottles from fridge. Hubby follows, sneaks behind me, tries TRIES to kiss me. I sat on it for a few days, he had been drinking, yada yada. I asked her advice, if she were me, what would she do, she said, I'D WANT TO KNOW. So I told her. End of friendship. Just like that. Years went by. She finally caught him with a mutual friend, called me, said she shouldve listened. Damage done, friendship was over. I miss her but to think I would lie about something like that, it will only cause problems, unfortunately. I know you want to help and hey Id want to know too, but really??? Maybe I wouldnt. I would, however, go to the table and say hello. Maybe the cheater will rat themselves out, better that way. Then you get blamed for not telling. You cant win, it sucks
2007-01-31 09:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by notso_recoveringwino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop by the table and say hello. The cheating spouse will get a strong message. Lay low on reporting it to anyone.
2007-01-31 07:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both, i would get my cousin on the phone and then go up to the table and say hi. Then I would hand the phone to the cheater and let them hash it out.
2007-01-31 07:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go to the table and say "Hello" (smile) and say ... "You've got one day before I tell my cousin" (smile, take a pic w/ phone, turn and leave).
It's always better to put this on them ... and set a deadline (2 hours to 1 day depending on your comfort level).
2007-01-31 07:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them.
Go over and say hello. It should be pretty easy to tell by how the spouse acts how innocent it is.
Can you imagine WHEN your cousin finds out how hurt they will be that you knew and didn't tell them?
2007-01-31 07:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are very close to ur cousin yes!!!!!!! But if you are not and dont care about her/his life dont. Its not ur business but its family!! family has to stick together. And think about if ur spouse was doing that wouldnt you like ur cousin to tell you!???
2007-01-31 08:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by crazy_sexy_shaly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. Probably go over their table and say hello, letting them know that you know. It make a huge difference.
2007-01-31 07:38:17 · answer #10 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋