8.5 weeks pregnant! To tell or not to tell?

Question

The babies heartbeat was detected on the ultrasound yesterday and I'm 8.5 weeks along. Is it too soon to tell people we are going to have a baby? When did you tell the news to family and friends???

Answer 1

I told my family asap. But I didn't tell my boss until I was into my 2nd trimester, once your chance of miscarriage drops 15%.
Your family is more understanding if something should happen. No need to get the office riled up until you are showing.
I didn't tell any of my friends until I was past that first trimester.

Answer 2

It depends on what you're comfortable with. You know the risks are highest in the first trimester. The question to ask yourself is, if something happened, would you be able to handle relaying the unhappy news. For some people a miscarriage is a very private matter while others prefer the reassurance of family and friends.

My mother-in-law learned that a family friend's daughter was pregnant. My M-I-L was ecstatic! Just shy of completing the 1st trimester, she said to the mom-to-be, "Wow! You look great! You can't even tell you're pregnant!" to which she was informed that they just lost the baby. Needless to say, my M-I-L wished she could take it all back. On plus side, she's pregnant again but waited before announcing.

And wow, my doctor won't even humour hearing the heart beat or an ultrasound until the first trimester is over.

Answer 3

Congrats! It is really your call, so go with what feels most comfortable! The reasoning behind waiting until the first trimester is that most complications happen before that time, but you are the only one that can make this decision!

I was too excited with our first child to wait - so our family and closest friends found out the day after we did! With our second ( 7 years later) I was a bit older and waited until I heard the heartbeat, etc.. before we told anyone becuase that felt right for that pregnancy.

Just keep one thing in mind - good news travels fast- so if you choose to tell word will spread! If you work and are NOT planning on not revelling this information to co- workers just yet- make sure that people you tell kno wthat up front...

Good Luck- Spreading your good news is so much fun!!

Answer 4

It's really your personal preference. Back in the day, it was unheard of to tell anyone before you were 12 weeks because of the risk of miscarriage. Today, many people choose to tell people as soon as they find out.

I told my family right away, when I was about 6 weeks. I figured if something did happen to the baby, I would want my family's support. Plus, it's never too soon to start celebrating the little life inside of you! We started sharing the news with friends closer to 12 weeks. Some people feel more comfortable waiting, others want to scream from the rooftops from the moment they find out. There is no right or wrong way.

Whatever you choose, make sure you are comfortable with it. Best of luck!

Answer 5

I found out when I was 4 weeks and had told my family and my boss at work (because I do a lot of lifting at my job) but it wasn't too long before I was hearing it from people I hadn't even met (people upstairs at work and my mom's friends) oh well. But what was so hard was when I was 8 weeks and had a miscarriage and everyone had to keep asking if I did or not and it was so hard having to tell them I had lost my baby. So this next time I have decided to wait until my 1st trimester is over to tell people, because most miscarriages happen in the 1st trimester.
Congrats on you pregnacy!

Answer 6

It's really a personal choice. I had a miscarriage my first pregnancy, so when I got pregnant again, I waited until the end of my first trimester. I am pregnant again. I am also 8 weeks. I waited until I saw the heartbeat on the u/s before breaking the news. I felt a little cheated with my last pregnancy because I was too scared to share my joy. I am feeling good about this one so I want to share my joy asap. Congratulations and best wishes for a healthy pregnancy and baby!

Answer 7

Congratulations!
With my first pregnancy, we didn't tell anyone and I lost the baby at 4 weeks, 3 days. We wanted family and friends to know about the baby we lost, and we told them the sad news.
I found out last week that I was pregnant again and we told family right away because we were also asking for prayers. I'm so glad we made that decision. Knowing that our loved ones are praying for our little one(s) really gives me a peace of mind and comfort that I am sure I would not otherwise have.
Everyone is different, so you may feel differently about what decision you and your husband would like to make, but I do hope that in hearing our story it helps you guys figure out what you want to do! Good luck and God bless!

Answer 8

We found out at around 5 weeks and spilled the beans because we had to inform co-workers about re-distribution of responsibilities while I was on maternity leave... and that required lots of training. My boss has a big mouth and before we knew it, everyone knew.

I've heard mixed stories. Some people tell everyone early and things go just fine. Some people tell early and then something goes wrong and they lose the baby, then have to deal with all of the sympathetic looks as they walk down the street. It just depends on what you're comfortable with. If you're just dying to tell someone, tell your parents and best friends and leave it at that. Let the rest of the world know when you're a little farther along... like around 3 months or so.

Answer 9

I concieved around June 6th and found out June 24th and I was only a couple weeks and I told EVERYONE!! I never even thought that something could go wrong. Thank God nothing did, or has....but most people wait until after 12 weeks because of the risk of miscarriage goes down after that. I would have never ben able to last that long!!!!!

Answer 10

I told as soon as I absorbed it myself, which was when I was about 5 weeks. I dont see the point in waiting 12 weeks. God forbid anything happened to me or the baby I'd want my family and friends there to support me through it. Besides its exciting news, why keep it to yourself. I also was hit with severe morning sickness where I felt I had to explain to people why I was so sick all the time. Anyway its great news congratulations and dont be afraid to let your loved ones in on the exciting news!