What should I say or do when my wife is in pain during labor? Need advice or suggestions. Thank you.
2007-01-31 07:22:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Go with her, do what she says, and don't ask any questions. If she wants anything, she will tell you. Just love her and comfort her.
2007-01-31 07:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by doodlebuttus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 39 weeks pregnant today and have seen two births, so I hope this helps.
For me personally I want to be as relaxed as possible.
I have asked my husband to rub my back and play with my hair, since these two things relax me the most.
What does your wife like? Does she like her back rubbed or her hair played with? Ask your wife what she wants you to do to relax her? My advice is to ask her what she expects of you way before you even step into the delivery room.
I heard some women get sort of rude at times because they may not deal with the pain well. Don't get offended if you get yelled at or if she squeezes your hand off!!
Try to keep her from getting tense and clinching her fists.
Whatever you do, don't watch the monitoring machines and tell her when she is about to get a contraction!! I heard that some husbands do this and it is horrible!!
Make sure you honour your wife's wishes by only having people in the room that she wants!
You may have to monitor spectators that are distracting your wife or making her stressed out.
I gave my husband the okay to kick anyone out of the delivery room that is making me irritated.
Congradulations Daddy!
2007-01-31 07:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by autumalena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her cry, scream, rant and rave. She's in more pain than you will ever be able to imagine, and she's not exactly going to be pleasant.
Give her anything she asks for... ice, a back rub, a hug, or some space.
Don't get angry at her. Don't argue with her. She'll be back to her normal self in no time, but her personality may change a great deal depending on how she can deal with the pain. It doesn't last forever, and she still loves you. Remember that.
2007-01-31 07:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her...hold her hand (she make break your wrist though,,,hehe,be careful)..let her know that you are there to support her and everything will be fine, and no matter how much she may seem to hate you for (what she may think at the time) putting her in this painful situation, just keep telling her you love her. When in serious pain, you tend to show less if any affection, so just remember after the baby is born - she will love you again, maybe even more....and congrats on the new arrival, hope all goes wells
2007-01-31 07:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should both take a birthing class, which are offered by most hospitals and are usually 3 or 4 weeknights. They will teach you a lot about what to expect and help you both learn what to do, and give pointers to the husband on how to be a supportive coach.
2007-01-31 07:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by EmLa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go with it, they say some women that usually like to be touched hate it during labor, just pay attention to her needs and be there for her. She will appreciate you for it. ALways commend her on what a good job she is doing.
2007-01-31 07:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by 1st time momma 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 06:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold her hand, try to accomidate her.if she wants ice go get her ice.if she tells u to shuttup, shuttup! lolz but just be very supporting and just make her feel comfortable. whatever u do, DO NOT eat ANYTHING infront of her. women in labor are not allowed to eat and labor can last a very very long time. just a heads up. :D
2007-01-31 07:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by deftoneschik42o 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to krag, that is totally not true.
Anyway, the best thing to do is just be by her side. Hold her hand and tell her how proud you are of her and can't wait to see your wonderful new baby. Whatever you do, just don't ask her any questions like, how do you feel?
2007-01-31 07:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by ticktock 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hold her hand and encourage i'm sure evryone says that but its very important that she knows your there for her through it all if she is screaming and cussing at you really dont take it personally haha you know child birth is probably the most painful thing on planet earth lol but yeahh just make sure you are comforting her at all costs good luckk:]
2007-01-31 07:31:39 · answer #10 · answered by mypupismylove 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, dont tell her that women have been doing this for centuries... lol. Make her feel special and encourage her. Dont compare her to anyone else, tell her she is doing great, etc. Tell her baby names you have been thinking of, or thoughts you have once the baby is three months old, six months old, 4 years old. etc. Like pushing her on a swing if it is a girl, making sand castles, etc.
2007-01-31 07:28:27 · answer #11 · answered by lllll 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋