i already forgave her for cuckolding me, but her friend (the father of the child in her womb) keeps on visiting her at our house. i must admit it's maddening for me to see them holding each other as though they're very comfortable with doing such. i am beginning to get jealous again. Just a thought on what she's told me today... that 'only the child's real father should make love to the mother'. Is it possible he's making love to her & she's allowing it coz he's the real father of the baby in her womb? OMG! These suspicion really torments me to death! What must i do? I love my wife, & i wanna keep our marriage & put it back on the track. Shall i confront her friend (& now, God forbid, lover?)? He's a bully in our neighborhood, & i'm frankly a bit afraid of him. i don;t want violence at all. What could i do? Please help me.
2007-01-31 07:19:15 · 18 answers · asked by lionel e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Put her out!!
2007-01-31 07:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by MK6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, don't take this the wrong way but you don't have a marriage. You're marriage was dissolved the day she got pregnant by another man, if you forgave your marriage was on the right track but the fact that this guy is still coming around is not only ridiculous but it is creating more space between you two. Your wife doesn't love you nor does she respect you the fact that she has him in your house hugged up shows she doesn't what you see or what you think. Kick her out and let her go back to him. This marriage isn't worth holding onto. You're wasting your time with her. He's the father of the baby, then let him take care of her or him. He's not the one to blame, eventhough he is an essential person in all this, you're wife is the one married to you and she took the vow, so she's the one whom you should be angry with. I know it may seem like by kicking her out or leaving her that you're letting him win. But what good is a contest where the bounty is a mildew shirt, or dog crap? She is not worth your time or your life. Move on to someone who better deserves you, because things are only going to get worse. Trust me, once a cheater always a cheater. You'll always be known as the pushover as long as you let her have her way. Sometimes you have to put your foot down, she got to go. Good luck sweetie, and if you ever need to talk I'm always willing to listen. Remember stand your ground, if you're not willing to stand up to him, police officers are and they come at all hours of the night if someone steps foot on private property.
2007-01-31 07:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but she's playing you, there is ABSOLUTLY no reason he should be comming over to your house. You need to tell her to choose you or him, and then deal with that answer either way it goes. If she's can't stop seeing him and uses the unborn baby as an excuse I'm sorry but she's using you. HE has no RIGHT to be there , she's your wife, Pregnate or not. IF the baby was born that's a diffrent story. But just being pregnate, NO he has no RIGHT, Stand up to her and tell her it's either him or you. I'm sorry for what your going through, but she's putting you through very unnessecery drama.
2007-01-31 07:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pack up and get OUT. Your going to be suckered into putting your name on the certificate of birth and when the baby comes you will be tossed aside then be made to pay for his child while they live together as a family.And as bad as it sounds unless you DO SOMETHING to stand up for yourself, you will deserve it.Its not like you don't know whats going on.Hon you don't have a marriage, you have a Jerry springer freak show.RUN FAR RUN FAST!!!!
2007-01-31 07:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Meemi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all stop acting intimidated
That is your wife and you need to step up.
Ask her if anything is going on.
Let her know that him coming over while you are at work is uncalled for and making you upset.
Switch the roles around on her and see how she feels about it.
Sounds like to me she is doing something but then again you can't jump to conclusions.
Let her know exactly how you feel. You are married to the woman and you act like you are afraid to talk to her and show her your feelings.
2007-01-31 07:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by Boo8081 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stay married to such a woman. If she's carrying his baby they have done it at least once. I'd confront your wife with divorce papers and let her have this other guy, and tell her good riddance. Kick her out too. Don't let her have sex with this guy in your home.
2007-01-31 07:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how you put up with that s**t."Real father making love to the mother"?????????What a crock of s**t.That is bullsH*t.You "make" love to the person you LOVE.Period.As for the tough guy, I break him off a little something and show no mercy.Then I'd beat him with a rusty pipe about the head for maybe 15 minutes or so.I would then give your wife a choice, me or him......after he gets out of I.C.U.
2007-01-31 09:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by Pimpstick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently this guy is more than a "friend" to your wife, and why you are letting him into your household is beyond me?
AND she's knocked up with his kid too????????
Stop being a doormat, pack your things, let her put the utilities in her name, sell the house or let her buy you out, and you stay the hell away from her!
She's toxic and you don't need to be involved with that lunacy.
2007-01-31 07:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She already gave you the answer herself....."only the childs real father should make love to the mother" I am sorry you are having to go through with this.
2007-01-31 07:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey man ......... just calm down first and dont get frustated........
i know its very much difficult for u
Such cases happens many times but in ur case u said tht u still love ur wife and it is very good to listen tht u want to get out of this case and not want to be seperate
BUT....wht if she thinks like tht.....no one knows tht........
so better just take her to dinner to her favourite restaurant or long ride and talk about some beautiful moments that u spent together
Look for her expression while talking and then hold her hand and ask her "I love u.......Do u love me?" .........her expressions wil tell u everything......
again be prepare for her answer and be sure that she is not telling u anything just for moment..........just confirm it .......and clarify everything that u r confused about her........
YOU MAY FIND THAT U R TOTALLY WRONG WHAT U R THINKING ABOUT HER...........AND I WISH THIS SHOULD HAPPEN AFTER YOUR MEETING..........ALL THE BEST......
and dont forget to tell me wht happened....
2007-01-31 07:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by RockyP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like an ultimately sh*tty situation. Your wife is pregnant with another man's baby, and that is okay? What?? I believe you should find someone that deserves you, and loves you and is not using you for whatever reason.
2007-01-31 07:26:06 · answer #11 · answered by me! 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋