You can work with someone for 20 years. You spent more time with this person than you have with your actual family. Why is it when they quit working with us we are able to accept it and move on so easily knowing we will probably never see them again? To me this demonstrates that we are the governors of our attachments and this basically means that when we have our hearts broken we were accessories to the crime.
2007-01-31 07:19:02 · 7 answers · asked by Immortal Cordova 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Cordova you are absolutely correct!
2007-01-31 07:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by ~*common sense*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh.....ok.
First of all, if the co-worker in question was a useless piece of.....you know what I mean.....I can't see that he/she deserves any sympathy. Especially if they were basically cogent and well aware of the monkey business they were doing.
But, I have felt bad about seeing some people leave (usually of their own accord) and when I recently retired, it was very difficult to just not come undone when saying goodbye to everyone.
I have no idea what you mean in that last statement; I'm sure you're attempting to be deep. I just don't get it.
Basically, it's hard to spend a considerable amount of time with someone and not feel sad when they leave.
But again, if they really didn't contribute much anyway, no sleep lost.
2007-01-31 07:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a co-worker gets fired, you are secretly glad it wasn't you that got fired. If they did really crappy work at their job and they get fired, you may be kinda of glad (although it seems rather mean) to see them go. When a co-worker quits, it is usually because they didn't like their job, they wanted to move on and pursue something else, or they are retiring, in which cases you would presumably be happy for them.
2007-01-31 07:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by BRIAN W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you completely, and you used that metaphor well. It is true because losing a coworker is passive, in relation to you, you did not take action or affect the happening in any way, it was a result of their own reality, however -the family you grew up with, or your lover/spouse/significant other or what have you- you werer more involved in their personal lives than you were to your coworker, there is almost a sense of responsibility in these boundaries.
i did cry when i lost a coworker and friend, but he was not fired, he died unexpectedly, so that does not actually relate to the nature of your question.
2007-01-31 07:44:16 · answer #4 · answered by truthxbeyondxrecognition 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PRobablly becasue we only ever had a work relation with them never a personal one. We don;t cry becasue psycologically it is a different type of sadness
2007-01-31 07:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by GGbaby13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't cry because it wasn't you and you may increase your union status or something like a better parking spot. Plus you already heard all of their stories.
2007-01-31 07:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Familiarity bridges/breeds contempt? oh no, immunity?
2007-01-31 07:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by oscar c 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋