how do you stop wanting to find that special someone?

Question

(i disagree when people say you have to be happy with yourself first. that has nothing to do with it. you can be happy with your job, have friends, family, you name it. at the end of the day, you don't make love and create babies by yourself.)

thanx

Answer 1

Just focus on yourself...

You say that you want a great life huh? Plus you wanna do well for your kids right?

I say work your butt off to be the best that you can be, save money, and while you do that, that special someone will show up and it will all fall into place.

Just don't jump into something that you are not sure how the other person feels. I was with a guy for a long time and he didn't want to marry me or have kids with me. I started dating a guy and 3 months into the relationship, I get pregnant. I thought that my life would've been a fairytale but it ended up in a nightmare b/c he didn't want me as a girlfriend or have a baby. I had the baby and came to reality to work hard and provide for me and him. It all works out at the end. Now, just only if I waited....

Answer 2

hmmm i have a friend who has this problem and ive told her the above which everyone tells u that u have to love urself which is true but i still agree with what u are saying...my adivce would be to first realize how lucky u are to have a good job, family, friends and are healthy a lot of ppl have it worse but however finding someone to share your life with is what almost everyone searches for in life...so heres where u start... first keep loving urself and complement urself by working out, go shopping once in awhile, plan a day for pedicures, etc. appreciate your friends and family....do something different and b daring...for example try something new or go somewhere new, don't b afraid to go up to that hot stranger and say hello and remember when u do find one don't settle unless they are the best...also try not to think about it ocupy your time with other things like giving back...try volunteering it will change your life forever trust me its an amazing feeling to give back & help someone...for now good luck & remember stop trying to look for love it will find you...

Answer 3

You can't stop wanting and waiting. But to feel stressed over it is a different story. You shouldn't really concentrate on that special someone. Why don't you convert that wanting feeling to something productive, like writing or maybe sports. Then, when you see that special someone, you can easily bring that emotion back.

Answer 4

There are a lot of things to do while youre wiaitng for your perfect someone. Make yourself beautiful from within. Immerse into spirituality/books/clubbin. Thtas what I did. You'll meet lotsa friends in clubs.

Answer 5

I agree with the person above me. Relax slow down stop thinking about it. it's torture. Find a hobby keep busy and when you dont think about it anymore it will happen, when you least expect it. Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 6

Find someone who you feel like you want to make THEM happy. Make then feel special to you.

Answer 7

Use money to satisfy yourself. get a big overstuffed pillow to hug onto all night. look into a sperm bank, and get another life you can focus on more than yourself.

Answer 8

Adopt, and get a gf who isnt the one but will work ...seriously i gave up and look around you, no one gives a dam about true love anymore.

Answer 9

Your always gone dream about that specail person tell your find him/her, it's a part of life. Cause everyone wants to know they are loved

Answer 10

You shouldn't want to stop trying to find that special someone, instead stop trying so hard. Your special someone will come to you someday, it just takes patience. Mine came to me when I least expected it, so maybe if you stopped trying so hard he'll come :)