OK. I grew up with men and I love em. My husband was a very good friend of mine for years but he secretly loved me. He was sitting in the car with his mom when we were 15 and he saw me, he pointed to me and told her "That's my future wife." We were married at 24. The reason I tell you this is because when a man feels like this about a woman, what happens with sex when the woman is old and..you know. I can't wrap my brain around the idea that he will be attracted to me still when you constantly see half naked women everywhere who are 20. Now I like myself, don't get me wrong. I'm 5'2", 110 and know it will change. That's OK with me. But hmmmm. I don't think he'd be disgusted but maybe too nostalgic. How does a man's 'visual' nature work in this kind of a situation? Do you know what I mean? :-)
2007-01-31 07:09:10 · 16 answers · asked by leemo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because love isn't skin deep. Attraction is what gets people together at the start, but it's a deep love and respect that keeps it going through the years. When you get older (and I am) you appreciate the beauty of youth but you don't neccessarily want to go there...there is something wonderful about a spouse who fits you like a glove...not just physically, but emotionally, mentally etc. Youth is beautiful but a relationship crafted by love over many years is priceless!
2007-01-31 07:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by Misty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Sure is refreshing to see such honest, mature answers.....always remember too, the most so-called "beautiful" men and women in the world get cheated on and divorce all the time so over the passage of time, looks really are not the most important thing.
Looks might attract a man, but they sure don't keep him!!!
Good blessings to you and your husband on a loving, peaceful yet exciting marriage!
2007-01-31 07:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 23:44:19 · answer #3 · answered by englin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u and your husband have a very romantic and nice relation....if he loves u as much as I felt from ur question then every wrinkle and every change in you will tell him how long you've been in love and it will get stronger , u will b as one, usually couples who love each other don't c that changes ... and remember he will get older as well...and u don't have to change u can keep fit according to other women in your age and he will always c u the best, u can maintain your body and health ...its the best thing could happen to a couple is to grow old together....cheer up
2007-01-31 07:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully he will get older too????? And if you two grow old together some marriages work! Mens eyes may stray but some actually love their wives enough not to run after young women. And what makes you think young women will be attracted to an old man. Is he rich? Will he have a Bentley? Believe me, young girls aren't attracted to old geysers unless they have more to offer than their wrinkley old bodies. take it easy on yourself. Stop worrying and enjoy your life you have started with your husband. Love him for your lives and vows. maybe you should have added in your vows for wrinkly !!!! kidding. enjoy your youth and your old age together! Stop worrying or you will have an ulcer now.
2007-01-31 07:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by katie d 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I have been together since 1971 and together we have gained a few wrinkles, added a pound or two, some gray hair and I think its safe to say we aren't able to preform like rabbits. We raised 4 kids and had some peaks as well as valleys, but we are walking through life together, for better or worse.
2007-01-31 07:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by gamerunner2001 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... Well, I've been married to my present wife for 7 years. She was 23 when we met and is now 31. I still see her physically as 23 even though she doesn't. My ex-wife is now 39 and I still think she is good looking. I think as you age together, time stands still in the relationship.
I hope that answers your question.
2007-01-31 08:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The visual taste of most men matures with the passage of the years. That is why most people marry others fairly close in age.
2007-01-31 07:22:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You change together. It is gradual. Over time if you are blessed to live a long life, everything you have now will drop and just hang there on you and on him. You can look at it as a beautiful thing or disgusting, reguardless its a fact of life.
2007-01-31 07:26:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The minds eye sees that young woman you married long after the youth has gone.
That vision stays around until one of you quits loving.
been together 35 years.
2007-01-31 07:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋