2007-01-31 07:06:13 · 17 answers · asked by Perplexed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her. Tell her. Tell her. Don't just say, "he's cheating on you". Tell her exactly what you saw. Give her the when, where, what, and who as much as possible. Ex, "I went out with some friends (give names if she knows them) Saturday night. I saw Jim at Big Mickey's Bar. He was with a brunette and I saw them kiss". Give her a time estimate if you can. Tell her anyone else who could verify your account. She'll be upset and won't want to believe it, so you have to make sure you have convincing details. Or, if you know he does this a lot, try to catch him again and get a picture of him with someone else if possible. When you give her details and he tried to cover up with some false aliby, it will be more difficult for him to do.
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Ask him how the bar was that night and see his reaction. Tell him you took a couple of good pictures of him and they are getting developed right now. Then, tell him he can tell her or you will. Then, when he's in ear shot, ask her if she wants to run with you to pick up pictures. If he calls your bluff, tell her like I described at first.
2007-01-31 08:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hate to be you in this situation. How well is this person a friend. If she is a close friend I would approach it very carefully. Just tell her what you saw don't add anything to it. If you have seen him there is a good chance others has too. Once I had a lunch date with a Guy who was separated and in the process of a divorce. The state where I lived at the time you had to be legal separated for a year before a divorce was final. He was going through his year of separation. So It was just a causal lunch date. Before he got home His soon to be ex-left a message on his answering machine. That he was seen out with a cute blond and wanted to know who it was? My point is you are probably not the only one that has seen him out.
2007-01-31 07:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her in person she's probably going to be in denial and she'll get mad at you for trying to break up her marriage. You can do 1 of 2 things~
1: send her an anonymous letter telling her about her cheating spouse; type it so she doesn't recognize the handwriting; and sign it a concerned friend.
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2: wait til you see him out with this other woman; stay close by; and call your friend to meet you there "just because" !
2007-01-31 07:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make it anonymous but sign it from a true friend. She will then probably bring up the topic in conversation with you within a few days, if she doesn't you might want to tell her face to face.
2007-02-01 02:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your really good friends with her. You tell her husband what you seen. In you tell him your going to tell her no later then tomorrow evening or am going to tell her. This is something you have to stay out of in give him the chance to tell her. I don't know how your going to tell him without her being around. But your going to have to find a way. Maybe you can call him at his job if you know were he works or if he answer the phone when you call her house. You need to find your open door to tell him. Give him that chance first. Because its his really his job to do it. Not yours. Just be careful.
2007-01-31 07:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be prepared for the consequences if you tell. It will be his story against yours. It might have been a lunch date with client or something who know how cheaters think. Be sure first!
But If she knows or finds out, and confronts her husband and if he lies and she chooses to believe him. YOU WILL BE THE HOME WRECKER! I have seen it time & time again. She will tell him who she heard it from, then they will try to work things out and you will be the trouble maker.
It's up to you, but think about it. Maybe you could just encourage her to be somewhere with you when maybe they have a date for her to see for herself.
2007-01-31 07:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by sbratt2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't say anything at all. It is not your place to be in their romantic buiness. For all you know, they are swingers!!
If she asks you "ahs my husband been out with other women" then you may answer. But be kind!But if she never comes to to you with this, then you need to just mind your own buiness and work to keep your OWN husband happy and make sure he is not out with other women....
2007-01-31 07:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by Pandora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure it is romantic, tell her. She deserves to know. You do risk her not believing you at first, but it will arouse her suspicions enough to get her interested in seeing the truth. If you care for your friend , you must tell her.
2007-01-31 07:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by katie d 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
shhhhhhhhhhhh.what your friend doesnt know cant hurt her.in as much as u would like to be a friend,its not your place to tell her.if you do and it leads to a divorce,seperation or whatever,who do you think fingers would point at first?and even if they make up,who do you think would be 'the enemy'?.what goes around............your friend may eventually find out but it doesnt have to be from you
2007-01-31 07:20:29 · answer #9 · answered by sharonz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you want to know of your friends say your husband out with another woman?
I know that I would want to know...and hopefully my friends would tell me.
2007-01-31 07:13:33 · answer #10 · answered by Misty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋