ok so for some reason my sex drive isn't what it use to be and I don't understand why?!! I'am only in my early 20's and my fiancee wants sex all that time and I can't seem to get in the mood....it is causing serious issues between us and I don't know what to do about it. Is there something wrong with me??? what can I do or take??? Please help!!!
2007-01-31 06:59:42 · 7 answers · asked by need advice 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
by the way...I still find my fiancee attractive,sexy, and all that. I also still love my fiancee very much!!
2007-01-31 07:00:37 · update #1
Everything is in waves, nothing is static...such is life. It is normal that you are really hot for your fiance one day and and then somewhat blaze the next. The concern should come when the lull lasts months. There are so many factors to fluctuations in our sex drives; stress, fatigue, menstrual cycle, financial strains, personal issues. etc etc etc. The tension that's being created from worrying about this and perhaps your fiance's frustration is only adding to the "issue" rather than resolving it. Talk to him, explain that (if this is the case) the pressure of having to be at the ready every day is not helping, patience and understanding is more conducive to a healthy relationship. Perhaps all you really need is some understanding that its okay to just want to be intimate without sex sometimes. Or, maybe you just need a little more coaxing; what would it take to get you in the mood... candlelight romance, an XXX film, kinky suggestions, sensual massage, anticipation throughout the day by suggestive messages. Here's a Women's health site that I find informative just in case you feel it might be something more serious than just a little dip in your mood
http://www.healthywomen.org/healthtopics/sexualdysfunction
2007-01-31 07:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by katzafreak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a rapid change in your hormones. Have you had a baby recently or even a while ago? Sometimes after giving birth, you can loose that sex drive that was once so strong. My advice to you, is to try other things in your sex life that really spice things up. What ever your fantasies may be... you should act on them. Of course, as long as they are safe and not against the law :) Teasing, Role Playing,Talking dirty in bed, XXX Videos, different positions, different places (naughty places) In the car, on the washer, in the back yard, etc... have fun with it and change things regularly, to keep it interesting. Good luck Girl!
2007-01-31 07:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by courtneyscottusa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be hormonal, i would get in to your doctor and talk with him about it, maybe they can run a few blood tests on you and start there. if theres anything wrong in your life, stress,depression,ect.. things like that can affect you also. there are meds that can help with certain problems depending on what they are, hormonal,mental? things of that sort. my first start would be talking to your doctor though. theres just so many things that can affect sex drive. good luck!
2007-01-31 07:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by saphirespice 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal!!! Um, try taking a female version of Viagra if you're really uncomfortable??? Or have more foreplay??
2007-01-31 07:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ask a doc y
try n eat chocolate and if it works pick me for best nswer
2007-01-31 07:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get a G shot.
2007-01-31 07:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by ss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a few drinks - relax & enjoy it
2007-01-31 07:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by hobo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋