Why is it the we tend to demoralize the ones we love(?) and letting our ego get hurt by them. Meanwhile, the impact is not as deep when done to us by other people?
2007-01-31 06:49:02 · 3 answers · asked by oscar c 5 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
thank you for all the nice and expected answers. We already know the old maxim 'familiarity breeds contempt'. I was more particular on the impact of the word bridges as compared to breeds. The reason why is I am trying to point out a one-on-one relationship as the case sample. Both phrases practically almost mean the same except that I would use 'breeds' to denote generality of people. When I say bridges, it is between two person who are in a relationship-friendly, lovingly, or sisterly from one point of the bridge to the other exclusively. otherwise i wouldn't have pinpointed metaphorically why do we get hurt deeply when someone we love inflict hurt on us in contrast to the very many who could inflict hurt on us yet we dont feel the pain. I expected smart people like you to notice and pinpoint the mistake right away. =)
2007-01-31 11:07:50 · update #1
I believe the saying is, "Familiarity breeds contempt". But yes, you are correct in your assessment. The tendency is because we expect those closest to us to excuse us, and they expect us to excuse them. We say things to each other that we would never dare say to a stranger. We can't hide from our family, and they can't hide from us. They see us exactly as we are. And we see them. Every time we try to be hypocritical, they catch us, and we catch them. We don't WANT them to know so much about us, and that can be irritating. We can fake it with other people, so when other people hurt us, we know that we might deserve it. When our family does it, we know that they deserve it, too, so we resent it.
2007-01-31 07:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The phrase is "Familiarity breeds contempt."
Naturally, when you get to know someone really well, you have more insight into what ticks them off, makes them chuckle, and makes them cry.
Perhaps familiarity makes it easier for you to say hurtful things because you don't have that spatial respect anymore. I'm not going to make fun of your poor fashion sense right when we meet, but if we were friends for a while, I have no problem lettng you know. Hopefully, I still let you know in a respectful manner!
People let go of the reciprocal respect because it takes work!
Respect should never leave a relationship, but it does because people confuse respect with familiarity. We can't be proper and stiff all the time--we need to relax with one another. However, that can be done without losing respect--just letting your hair down!
2007-01-31 15:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it's "familiarity breeds contempt." It's the opposite of "absence makes the heart grow fonder." It's kind of sad but it's human nature. You can get sick of someone if you see them too much. They can start to get on your nerves. This is particularly true of family. It can be hard to get along. This is why people are anxious to move out. You take people for granted when they're always there. You appreciate them more when there's a little distance. I have a much better relationship with my Mom now that I live on my own. We spend quality time together when she visits instead of quantity time when she was always around & used to drive me nuts!! Ha ha.
Maybe this is why the divorce rate is so high...you can only stand someone's company for so long before they start driving you crazy!
2007-01-31 15:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by amp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋