got kicked out my class cause i wouldnt speak infront of the group?

Question

im doing maths and english resits well we have to go to this school cause they are ment to help us learn more about ourselfs and well heres what happen.

we had to introduction ourself to the class and there like about 30 students but we know each other cause we have been at the training centrer for 2 months now,the information we had to give was our name,were we live and what we are aiming to do.well i cnat speak infront of big groups of people cause i get very shy.well they told me that if i didn't wont to do it i would be kicked out the cource and wont be able to come back tommow and plus i get a warning,which mean if i get 2 more warning I'm off my english and maths cource.well i said i wont do it but my teacher did.

my question is is this out of order kicking me out cause i ddint wont to do it and how can i egt more confidence as now ic ant go back till next week when we go back to doing maths and english

sorry about any spelling or grammer error im dyslexic.

Answer 1

Go to the counselor at the school or speak personally with the director. School is supposed to help you not mess with your mind like that.

Answer 2

That just isn't right. Some people are like this, and I really don't get why the school is like this. Is this school? College? If it's university, then perhaps they have a right.

The point is, you need confidence. Well, here's a few tips. Every night, look at the mirror. Tell yourself you're the best person in the World, and can do anything. You can do anything better than everyone else. You have to believe that - Even if you don't really. Keep this up, eventually, your confidence will grow. Believe in yourself!

Secondly, relax. Have two deep breaths before you go up. Have a drink of water too. Just think happy thoughts (they probably shouldn't be innappropiate), and remember them.

Finally, when you're up there - Act normal. It's just a conversation, except they're listening to you! So come on, just talk! What's the worst that could happen? You don't talk is the worst. So just talk! Think about you're happy thoughts! You're the best person there - Just keep thinking that!

I hope this helps. Good luck! =D

Answer 3

I think the teacher, or whomever kicked you out (or threatened to do so) should have handled the situation differently, and should have been trained to handle a student who is not comfortable speaking in public. Granted, I can't see you just saying "I'm shy, I don't want to do it" and I'm suspecting that maybe you were a little disrespectful doing it. I used to be really shy and I dreaded speaking in public, but I did it and got it over with and was almost as nervous after doing it as i was waiting to do it. I don't understand why it was such a big problem for you if you know all these people anyway. Maybe you have a bigger problem a social anxiety perhaps, in which you should see a therapist. As for the confidence to speak in public, it's just something you'll have to work at... instead of running from your fear of speaking in public, force yourself to do it... what's the worse that could happen? afterwards, you will see, that there was nothing to be worried about... I mean really, what could you do so embarrassing while saying the simple things as your name, where you live and your goals... I'm sure people were thinking less of you because you were too shy to say those simple things, than they would have if you had just said it... by choosing to not do the activity that everyone else did, singles you out, and puts more attention on you, and gives people a reason to judge you... If you had simply spoke like everyone else, they wouldn't have thought of you as any different and simply "another person telling about themselves"... half of them probably would have been too bored to even had been paying attention to the presentations at that point anyway...

Answer 4

Well first of all, you have got to learn how to write because your spelling and grammar seems to be way off. I know I'm not the best writer in the world, but you have got to get some help with your writing. Anyways, back to your topic. So umm....I see that your teacher will kick you out if you don't speak in front of the class. I believe this is wrong for the teacher to do. Unless this is a Communications course, then what the professor is doing is totally pathetic. From what you wrote, I think the teacher is a little bit racist. But that's just one side of the story. Remember, you are in this class by choice, and it's usually whatever the teacher say go. Besides, you will have to become more confident some day. Why not start now? So, yea....um overall, your teacher sucks for kicking you out, but you should be less shy becasue that's how life is. If you are shy how could you ever get a job?

Answer 5

dont worry about it too much. When I was in school I was the same. I hated doing stuff like that. But as you get older you learn not to be too bothered about it and you gain confidence. I recently had to do a similar thing on a training course and although I hated the thought of doing it, I just thought f*ck it. Many people are thew same. Here in the UK public speaking is one of the biggist phobias!! Just do it man and don't think about what other people think. And when you have done it once then twice you will think why the hell was I stressing.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Maybe you should talk to your teacher in private and ask for advice. I've found the best way to succeed in classes is to find out early on what the teacher wants from you and then do it. Each teacher wants something different, you have to figure out what it is. And the best way is to ask him/her.

I think it was a little extreme kicking you out of class but I'm not the teacher so it doesn't matter what I think.

If you must go back and speak in front of the class, just take a deep breath and do it. Remember probably everyone else hates it too, but they're doing it and so can you.

Answer 7

I would take the teacher to one side and let them know about your anxieties and how you feel about speaking in front of large groups and that you need some support and reassurance, also speak to your parent/guardian about it. I dont think it is right that they threw you out of the class for something so petty. If the teacher is not forthcoming with any help or support then you should go to the headteacher and ask for their advice.

Whatever you decide to do - good luck - and dont worry too much about speaking in front of large groups I'll bet there were others that felt exactly the same.

I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 8

dont apologise, your spelling was fine. I am very sorry to hear what happened and I am shocked that a school would be like that towards a pupil. I would suggest that you talk to your mum and dad about this and also make a point of going to see your teacher and explain how you feel and about your difficulty talking infront of a group of people. If you cant talk to your teacher then do you have a year head or a guidance teacher? If you have learning difficulties then your school have the obligation to offer you learning support. Be strong and stand up for yourself, your entitled to help and support and your teacher was wrong to behave like this. good luck

Answer 9

I don't think the teacher was out of line. EVERYONE gets scared about talking infront of people.. they say it's the the most common fear. I HATE it... yet if it's an assignment you've gotta do it. they are having your do it for a reason... while you're up there you'll think you're going to die... as soon as it's over you'll think that wasn't so bad. remember it's not like you're the ONLY one that has to do this... everyone in your class does... you think they all want to stand infront of the class and give a speech. just wait until you get to college and a speech course is required. i couldnt wait for the day that it is over, and i can be a very outspoken person. once you do it a few times... you wonder why you were so scared in the first place. suck it up and just get it over with!

oh and ps... remember to BREATH, speak very slowly (you'll think you're talking slower than you are... but because your nervious you'll be talking a million words a minute), don't fidget, keep your knees unlocked (you don't want to pass out), and one of my bad habbits is i sway back and forth -- try to stand still.

Answer 10

there is a big difference between won't and can't. And you can, all you need is a bit of help. First what is the worst thing that can happen to you if you speak out loud to a group of friends, Will they laugh at you because you make mistakes, so what, no big deal, no one is perfect, and no one was born knowing how to do anything, And to allow fear to rule our lives because we are afraid of what other people think is just not right,What about what you think, is that not important? Yes it is because you need you to be there when no one else is standing by your side, So stop worrying about what others think, they will not be the ones that will be paying the bills, or feeding you or giving you a place to live, so what they think is unimportant, What you think is,

Answer 11

Unfortunately, from the sound of it, part of your course will be about improving your speaking skills and learning to speak out within a group. A good way to do this is by practicing on your own what you will say. When you have to stand up and do it, just imagine that you're in your room on your own and go for it.

Everyone else has had to do it and I'm sure many of them were just as nervous. Just think to yourself that if you do it this time, next time you need to, you won't feel so bad and people will respect you more for doing it than if you just sit and say you won't. Good luck.