its really hard for me to decide cuz if im les den its like im 4getin about the males species and neva will be wit 1 sooo idk
2007-01-31 06:39:44 · 8 answers · asked by ctownz_phatty617 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The great thing is that you don't have to decide anything. Think about who you're attracted to. What gender(s) do you fantasize about? If you fantasize only about women and you're looking for a label for yourself then that would be "lesbian." If you fantasize about both men and women and you're looking for a label for yourself then that would be bisexual.
But the thing is that labeling yourself lesbian doesn't automatically mean that men are not a possibility. I've known women who identify as lesbian for years then all of a sudden one particular guy catches their fancy. Sometimes they relabel themselves as bi, and other times thay feel that one time doesn't count and they're still lesbian.
But never feel pressured to label yourself, okay? You are who you are. There's no rule that says you have to pick a label in order to join the ranks of the Rainbow People.
Just live and enjoy life, okay? :)
2007-01-31 07:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fascinating. I get grief for affirming what others have long said about decision and preference behind homosexuality and the politically-correct thing to say here is "you are born that way." Then you come in asking how to "decide" and that you "don't know". If you believe the popular notion that you are born that way, then you've always been--whatever it is that you are.
So while you are trying to "decide", when you dream the erotic dreams, do you picture yourself affectionate with men, women, or both? Freud was often full of beans but he and others had long ago surmised that there is something truthful about a dream, even the most fanciful of dreams. When you get arouse, even in waking hours, which side of the coin pushes your buttons best?
2007-01-31 06:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're able to be bi yet only have a sturdy decision for women. that's straight forward for bi human beings to desire one over the different. or you ought to only be dealing with slightly of thoughts. this occurs too each and every now and lower back. you ought to wish a female for now, yet who knows? sooner or later you ought to wish a guy. Sexuality is only too complicated to truly label gay, bi, or on the instant. that's no longer something that's black or white in an attempt to chat, yet quite a mix of hues of gray.
2016-11-23 17:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Heres How I see it..
If you like girls, you like girls, If you like guys. Thats fine to, and if you like them both.. Your set.
I'm bi but thats just me, best of both worlds really
Don't be afraid to get out and see what each one is like..
and be safe!
2007-01-31 06:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by blackxrosexthorn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be either, how about you just say I like what I like and I dont need to justify or label myself... works for me
2007-01-31 06:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_treat101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter? You only get one chance at life...make the best of it. Do what you want.
2007-01-31 06:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it bothers you that much, just be bi, you shouldnt have to worry about parting with it if you dont want to, i thought that would be simple
2007-01-31 07:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't know, how will total strangers be able to figure it out?
2007-01-31 06:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋