For the past 3 years I have been working in a small office, maybe 15 feet by 10 feet, with a lady that is 18 years older than myself. I am 32 she is 50. We have nothing in common. She is a so-called Christian and I do not go to church. I have tried so hard to like her but I know she is jealous of me and she hates it that her job is so much harder than mine. I have offered to help her, but she refuses it, I guess it's just job security she is thinking about. I recently got into her email just to see if there was anything about me on it, the reason I did it is too long to talk about now, well, I found one where she said I was rude to everybody, and I have a new car but it does come with a payment, (she knows I think I am pretty), so she told her friend she wants to get the kind of mirror I have so she can be pretty, too. I have recently lost 40 lbs and I KNOW I look good. I am so hurt cause I tried to like her all these years, now I am giving her the silent treatment. What should to do?
2007-01-31 06:33:38 · 10 answers · asked by foshizz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You do look good. She is jealous of you, and by the way what a good christian lady that she must be to say those things. At least now you know and you can stop being nice to her. If you feel awkward because you have to work so close to her try some things like maybe headphones, you could say you are listening to a book on tape, or just get so into your work that you cant talk to her. Maybe you could get a mirror and place it on her desk anonymously.
2007-01-31 06:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by monica your new bff 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't you think you are stooping down to her level by breaking into her email?? I guess I cant judge because you said there was a reason. Anyways, I would kill her with kindness. Most people hate that so much they just give up in the end and be nice to you. And another thing, what you DON'T know cant hurt you. Next time be foreword with her instead of going behind her back. Do onto others blah blah, even if that same rule doesn't apply to everyone else, you will feel better in the end by being the bigger person.
2007-01-31 06:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by ErinRae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very cheesy on her area to unfold it around the place of work. Very undesirable thought to occasion with co-workers - save artwork and private existence separate. Who knows why she did it. She must be searching for some validation that she's nonetheless appropriate/able to hooking up with a youthful guy or she might have only been sexy - such as you. you're no longer likely to have the flexibility to clean it up or do harm administration. all of us know you stayed there and have been below the impression of alcohol which = you probably did it and it will make you seem worse in case you attempt to deny it. in case you act like it grew to become into the wonderful experience you have ever had, you ought to have somebody a hundred% on your corner for the the remainder of the time you artwork there, which isn't a bad ingredient. substantial ingredient to money in in this - do no longer sh-t the place you consume.
2016-11-23 17:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gossipers are THE WORST in the work place. My boss use to be the gossiper in my old office. She would always try and get everyone else involved in whoever she was gossiping about. I always ignored her and ended up being the one she talked about the most for it. I say, listen to whatever she yaks about, but dont say anything. DONT RESPOND, even if she asks you about your opinion, Just say I dont know both sides, So I cant give an opinion. Good luck
2007-01-31 06:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question....well personally, I wouldn't care. She sounds jealous, but more importantly....insecure. She is unhappy with something about herself and she is using transference of emotions and taking it out on you because she can not look at the man in the mirror. Just keep smiling and keep being you!
2007-01-31 06:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you confront her about what she's been doing to you. know one should ever talk about some one behind there backs it's preet bad when that happens. ya she probably is jelous of you and wishes she had it easyer and takeing help from you could be hard for her too. she peobably wants to think that she can figure it out on her own and dosn't need any help. she might be a little self centered. but you should confont her about all this and it should work out.
2007-01-31 06:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get such a big head about yourself darlin beauty is only skin deep. it does kinda sound that you are a bit conceded,and what right did you have to get into her email? that's invasion of privacy in my book, sounds like you don't deal with people very well either.so I guess you got what you deserved
2007-01-31 06:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by sissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading someone else's e-mail got you what you deserve. You had no right to invade her privacy and are no better than she is. The two of you deserve each other. Wishing you many happy years together.
2007-01-31 06:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by Roberta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the high road and let it go. She is a small person and there is no use getting into a _____match with her.
2007-01-31 06:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill her with kindness. Tell her you love her hair, is that a new dress, etc, etc, blah, blah.
2007-01-31 06:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋