is it too early to talk about sex to an 11 year old girl?

Question

i have an 11 year daughter who is middle school ,i have been saying little sfuff to her but not so graphic about sex and what it is,so i guess i really want to know is should i be or she i wait a little while longer?oh ya and she calls her self liking this boy at school.

Answer 1

In my opinion 11 is very late.I told my 11 year old daughter about sex when she was 5. I rather do it myself than let her hear all sort of things at recess time in school from some other misinformed little girl.You as her mother knows best on how much she can handle and there are so many fun ways of talking to children about sex without being very graphic.I will encourage you to go ahead and tell her.Just talk to her before she tells you "she knows" already.There is nothing to be ashamed of.

Answer 2

Definately not too early, I learned about sex in school when I was 10, but everyone started talking about it by the time I was in 3rd grade (possibly before) I also got my period at 10 and hadn't yet been taught about when I got it, I know those conversations usually go together so if she hasn't heard that one now is definately the time for it. You should tell her as soon as possible though so she hears it from you before she starts getting the wrong information from her friends who may have heard things from older siblings who heard it from friends.

Keep this in mind, when I was in middle school there was a girl about a year older than me who went to her 8th grade graduation about 8 - 9 months pregnant meaning she probably got pregnant at about the age of 12. I also heard (I never found out if this part was true or not though) that it was not her first kid. So it is far from being too early to teach an 11 year old about sex.

Answer 3

I can tell you now she allready knows what sex is. And if she's anything like the kids at my school she knows about oral, condoms, erections, periods, 69, pornography and any other thing that the little sicko kids at my school talk about. Sadly to say kids are becoming sexually aware and even sexually active at younger ages than they probably were when you were a kid. Perfect example I'm in eight grade and just yesterday a girl in my class was telling everybody about how her and her boy friend are having sex. It's sad really, but hey we can't controll what other people do but you can talk to your daughter and help her to make right decisions. Best of luck and God bless.

Answer 4

It's never to easly to talk to her about sex.Tell her the facts,the consequencies and all about protection.Kids now a days are having sex and younger ages and if they are not informed properly then problems can occur like stds or even pregnancy.In the school district that I live in 2 kids (11 yr old girl and a 13 yr old boy) were caught in the locker room doing things that surprized most parents in the district.So it's never to soon just don't make it to late if you know what I mean!!

Answer 5

In this day and time the way the world is, I think your on the right track to tell her now, get some books or websites on helping you to show how the body changes and all that takes place. I think your a good mom to be concerned and interested, if more paid attention like you are the world would be a much different place.

Answer 6

No, do not wait. She has probably already learned a lot of stuff (much of it wrong) at school. She needs to understand why abstinence is so important. She needs to understand that sex is not just a physical act. She needs to understand its emotional, psychological, and spiritual aspects as well. When you read the posts here you see the worry, guilt, pain, sorrow and all that comes from kids not knowing that a casual act (to them) will cause them a lifetime of trouble.

The physical part is easy to explain to her. It is much more difficult to explain the non physical parts, but it is the more important issues.

Good luck.

Answer 7

No stay on this site and read about all the very young girls getting pregnant and you will see that now is the time to talk to her. Before she gets any older and engages in activity you would rather she doesnt. Of course she likes a boy at school thats normal.

Answer 8

When I was in middle school I knew a lot of kids who were having sex(I know,it's gross right?).So definately talk to her about sex.Don't make it sound scary of course,that could cause complexes down the road.Make sure she knows SHE is in charge of her body and not to accept pressure from ANYONE at ANY TIME.The most important thing is to make her feel comfortable talking to you about those kind of things,let her know she can always come to you with questions or for advice.I wish my mom had done all that for me(of course she didn't do much of anything for me).Good luck!

Answer 9

I would say that it's defiantly a good time. And she probably all ready knows a lot more about sex then you think she does! At that age kids talk about a lot of things. You might even want to mention to her that when she starts thinking about having sex that its OK to talk to you about it and you wont get upset. That way if she does start thinking about having sex early she wont be scared that you'll be mad and you can discuss birth control or other options. Good Luck I hope this helps!!

Answer 10

well don't freak out but make sure that she knows that sex can wait till she is ready, how to have sex safely and create an environment where she can approach you. I think 7th-8th grade is where kids start getting sexual, at least that is how it was at my hs but that doesn't mean that BAM 7th grade hits and its orgy time. I've never found that, but I'm no where near popular so I suppose I don't know what they're doing. I can just tell you that sex ed programs are abstinence based and if you want your daughter to know anything besides the most basic, you need to tell her.