is in my boat. I feel like I live in the movie "You, me and Dupree" but 10x worse. The best friend really needed a place to stay "just to get back on his feet" that was a year ago, and I'm afraid he's never going to leave. I cook, clean up after everyone, watch my 2 year old all day, and work at night. (He does pay a small amount of rent, but I doubt it even pays for the amount of food he consumes)
Tips and advice welcome please. Please no sarcasm, I'm serious. How do I get him out? Or at least get him to help out! He doesn't even say THANK YOU for anything!
Sorry for the rant.
Thanks for any advice you have.
Also, before you mention it, no my husband won't ask him to leave. He says that he is his best friend, and they work together, and it would be too difficult to ask him to go. Plus, he has no where else to live, and can't seem to save a penny.
2007-01-31 06:13:13 · 8 answers · asked by mq1229 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Someone asked how old he is...32!!
I have no idea what he does with his money, all I know is he gets lots of overdraft letters in the mail.
2007-01-31 06:32:23 · update #1
I am sorry hun, but after a year he isn't out yet? I would take matters in your own hands, ask him when he plans on moving out, it sounds like you are everyones maid, you really need to talk to your husband, tell him how this is upsetting you. What is he doing with his money? How old is he? these are questions you need to ask this friend,, And how (i will never understand) does grown people live with and off of other people, it just isn't right. I hope the best for you.
2007-01-31 06:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in the same boat as you the friend works for my boyfriend. at first it was o.k. then after a week or so you seem to lose it. I kept on my byfrnds butt about it maybe be a little grumpy or just flat out start asking the guy to pitch in bring your guy into that one too. Start making up chore lists for the guys to and just start being a B---CH and maybe he'll get the drift. You can also take personal time away from your guy. Remember the chick always has the upper hand in this situation you just have to stick to it even if it is mean. Or you can ask around to other friends to see if they have extra room.
2007-01-31 06:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by hotmamagrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Golleee, ya do not say if ya have the different friends or couples that ya get alongside with. If'n yor husband likes em, he could experience that he'd desire to spend a while with em relatively of watchin' television each Friday night. My little sugums and that i've got couples that we get alongside with that are 2 many years youthful than us, (wager that makes us perty darn previous, huh?). We share the comparable political critiques, delight in the comparable kinda meals and cookouts or maybe the comparable grimy jokes. We is purely stable friends. So do ya have any friends? might ya like some new ones? supply it a attempt, it may be extra effective than watchin' reruns of "friends." (an' it do not mean they is intercourse friends,) shoot, they could purely be superb human beings to play enjoying cards with, bypass to the movies with or cook dinner out some wieners on the grill.
2016-12-13 05:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sort of had this problem with a co-worker. He needed a place for "a few weeks" that turned into a year. I finally ran him off by constantly having my friends around at all hours of the day and night. I kept little to no food in the house, played death metal when he was trying to sleep, etc. Good luck!
2007-01-31 06:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with your husband and tell him everything you just told us and if he doesn't want to say anything then you talk to the best friend and let him know how you feel. A year later, I would say he is muching and not wanting to take care of his own responsibilities, especially if he is working what is he doing with all that money then? Good Luck to you.
2007-01-31 06:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why the hell do u care whether he has money to live or not? he is not your best friend, and your hubby is right - he can't tell him to get out. but u can. and did u mention that he works? so how come he doesn't have money to move on his own? this is bulls'h'i't. u have been punked lady. tell him today pack your bags prince, u re leaving today and do not be afrais that he will call u a witch and a b'i't'c'h and whatever. why dop u care whether he likes u or not? just kick him out or u will be stuck with him till the rest of your life
2007-01-31 06:28:37 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would set up a time where your husband is not there and his best friend is...then sit down and talk to him about it.
At least he does pay some of the rent.
Let him know how you feel.
I mean you have to let him know how you feel because that is your house as well as your husbands.
2007-01-31 06:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by Boo8081 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tuff, I would sit down with your husband and try to make him explaine the position it puts you in and how you are done with this. If he doesnt understand then try to get some of his friends to take your side and if that doesnt work just tell him that you and the kids will stay at your moms until the friend is gone.
2007-01-31 06:20:08 · answer #8 · answered by poling2482 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋