Ok I need some advice. Most men in my life have been MAJOR LET DOWNS. Another woman was there to hear my gripes and give her opinion/advice. I'm now attracted to her and vice-versa, but for reasons unknown, i'm still very much attracted to MEN. Does this make me bi or a lesbian?
2007-01-31 06:10:03 · 19 answers · asked by MS.MOCHA 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It doesn't make you anything. Enjoy and good luck!
2007-01-31 06:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are more than likely bi. Bicurious actually. You wont be full blown bisexual until you have some sort of relations with another woman. But you cant identify yourself as a lesbian as long as you still have any type of sexual attraction towards men.
2007-01-31 06:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know hetrosexuality and homosexuality is constructed. you was not born either way, but sounds like you constructed hetrosexuality first, and for some reason you are thinking about working on constructing homosexuality in yourself. It is your choice! Beware.
The Formula For Constructing A Homosexual
This formula can be illustrated in this way: A Predisposition
Toward Homosexuality Plus That First Homosexual Experience
Multiplied By Pleasurable and Positive Homosexual Thoughts
To Which Is Added More Homosexual Experiences Multiplied By More Pleasurable Thoughts Constructs A Homosexual.
The Formula For constructing A Hetrosexual
This formula can be illustrated in this way: A Predisposition
Toward hetrosexuality Plus That First Hetrosexual Experience
Multiplied By Pleasurable and Positive Hetrosexual Thoughts
To Which Is Added More Hetrosexual Experiences Multiplied By
More Pleasurable Thoughts Constructs A Hetrosexual
2007-01-31 11:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People are people, and it's possible you are attracted to this woman for who she is. If you begin a sexual or romantic relationship with her, I would say that makes you bi.
I hate it when people say it's not possible to be bi -- like it's mandatory that one must choose to be either straight or homosexual. I have a friend who was a lesbian since I met her (more than 10 years ago) and now is in a loving relationship with a man.
I promise you it IS possible to be attracted to whoever, regardless of their sex -- and it is okay. :) Good luck!
2007-01-31 06:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by mistaken4sane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be bi, or maybe you need to just experience with her to figure it all out. I mean, it may just be because she has been there for you through EVERYTHING, and all of the let downs that you have had (those can be hard) but if you think you have feelings for her, tell her you think you do, but your not sure, and would like to see if those feelings really exist. It will all work out for the best, but you should experience it all, and just let everything fall into place, good luck girl!
2007-01-31 06:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what you're putting forward, you do look much better in touch in females, so probably convinced. regardless of the indisputable fact that it ought to easily be an element (not meant to sound paronising). i'm dealing with something like that, i have continuously talked about myself as gay, i recognize adult adult males to bits :P yet am startng o hink i'd be bi, purely not have a relationshuip with a woman - im not camp in any respect and get on extremely properly wih females, yet i couldn;t have something better than casual sex with a woman if i have been to. i ought to nonetheless call myself gay regardless of the reality that, purely because thats what i understand best :D
2016-12-03 07:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes you confused. You may confuse kindness and understanding with sexual attraction. As long as you are strongly attracted to men, you are not bi or lesbian.
2007-01-31 06:14:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say you still are into guys, but you are off and on about this woman. just because u your in to her does not all ways mean that you are a lesbian. i my self have been in you place.... that you are bi i thnk that should be left up to you, deep down in side you will kow what you are. personly if you deeply like her a lot then maybee you are, i had too determine that 4 my self too but if your just looking 4 some too go to when guys let you down, then don't considder it..... i hope i mite of helped you out (i think i helped myself out too)
2007-01-31 06:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by *_*wendy*_* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it makes you confused... you want what you see in this woman in a man that would make you happy, but with it being this woman and yet still attracted to you, you start to question your own sexual orientation...
in the simplest of terms it would make you Bi-curious... since you haven't had experience of Bi relationships...
2007-01-31 06:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by metalli_catz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to say. could be your are attracted to her level of emotional intimacy since she has been there to talk with you about your problems.. or could be you really do have bi feelings.. could also just be a curiousity thing.. most people go thru curious phases in their lives.. don't be in such a rush to label yourself..
2007-01-31 06:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What it makes you is..........sick of straight men and their BS. Does it make you a lesbian, or bi.....only you can answer that.
There are nice guys out there, and some of them AREN'T gay. : )
2007-01-31 06:15:41 · answer #11 · answered by ramblin' robert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋