He also wants to call her as a witness because in my state it helps my case for alimony. I think that it is a good idea. My mother in law says that I should remember that I did love him once. He is no longer seeing the mistress. It could just be temporary until the divorce papers are filed. I don't know. Who knows?
2007-01-31 06:01:47 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't understand nor do I agree with the whole alimony thing. Why should he have to pay you cuz you were married to him? Its absolutely ridiculous. I'm sure you'll be greedy and try to get all you can out of the poor guy - just had to get out my opinion on the subject.
2007-01-31 06:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by thersa33 4 · 1⤊ 5⤋
I think you should do what your lawyer says to do. He is the one who is qualified and a professional in the legal field. If he is confident that this will help your case, you should go for it. Good Luck!!!
I also wanted to add that if you do end up in court, pretty much all of the time the court is in the womans favor. So when people tell you that the lawyer is just trying to make money off you, remember that when a lawyer wins your case, it's good for the lawyer too. And as far as the b*tch that answered saying that you were just trying to suck money out of the poor guy... f*ck her!!! She's just p*ssed because it probably happened to her lying cheating boyfriend's poor ex wife. Anyone who cheats on you is an asshole!!!! And he deserves to pay!!!
2007-01-31 06:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by toothfairy.2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) Do you financially need your ex's help, even temporarily?
2) Was his affair the absolute reason for the divorce? Or were there others? Was there abuse in the relationship? Physical, emotional, mental, alcohol related abuse?
3) Do you have kids together? Will his child support cover the expenses?
If you're looking to get alimony, may as well take him for what he's worth.
2007-01-31 06:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you would like you and your husband to maintain some type of friendly relationship after the divorce; then don't do it.
Also, (and I don't mean to be insensitive or blunt) is there any physical proof that your husband and his mistress actually... you know.
The reason I ask is that they both could deny having any kind of affair, and it would essentially be your word against theirs.
Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-31 06:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. Of course his mother would say not to, because it's her son and she's sticking up with him. Though, which state do you live in, because as far as I had heard, there weren't any states left that didn't have no-fault divorce, which doesn't take any kind of infidelity into account.
Honestly, I don't agree with alimony anyway, I think that assets should be divided up 50/50 and that's it.
2007-02-02 04:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I agree with the mother in law remember that you loved him once upon a time. You could be right it could be a ploy while he's going through the divorce. Talk to him about going on and settle this now or you will have no other choice but to air his dirty laundry in public. Now make sure that you don't have any dirty laundry. Good luck.
2007-01-31 06:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just according how much money is involved or property, if he isn't giving you what you want , summons that mistress and you will be granted your wishes. Sure your mother in Law wants her son to get off easy that common nature, don't listen, get that mistress in court and you'll be awarded. You was done dirty , adultery was put on you and caused so much pain, leave mommy out of it, do what your atty. tells you.
2007-01-31 06:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long you were married, whether you work or not, and things of that nature will decide whether or not you get spousal support. Him having a mistress will not. Spousal support isn't that common these days as most women who stay home choose to do so.
i don't know what state you are in, but most of them allow for No Fault divorces. Meaning, you don't have to give a reason. If they do not allow that, most people just put irreconcilable differences.
You do need to realize your divorce decree and petition will be a matter of public record that anyone is entitled to see. I wouldn't be airing my dirty laundry out there for everyone to read.
*Added*
Most divorces these days don't even go to trial. And the ones that do are usually suckered into it by the attorney's because they make more money getting you into the courtroom. Have you even tried to settle this out of court? If not, your attorney is taking you to the cleaners. My ex and i divided everything, and had an agreement before we even hired lawyers. Our attorney's tried to get us to go to mediation, talked about going to trial, everything. I told mine "we have already settled everything, what mediation do we need?" Listen to your attorney, but research things as well. They are paid to represent you, but they will try to make more money off of you if they can.
2007-01-31 06:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Was the promise made in written? Why the Lawyer of your husband, should ask you for Attorny Fees & Cost from you? It should be borne by your estranged Husband. In the Capacity of Lawyer, it is a legitimate demand for Termination of Award of Spousal Support, for his Client, even if the Client has promised in written. That much authority The Lawyer has!
2016-03-15 02:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Name that home-wrecker! Maybe in the future she'll think twice about sleeping with another woman's husband. His fault too, of course! Who cares if they're humiliated. They both deserve it. You'll get more money (for your kids) that he won't be spending on other women in the future.
2007-01-31 06:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by •√¡rgő• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say put that skank in the papers!!! Your mom-in-law is right, but to an extent. So to re-word what she said but correctly, Remember that you did love him 'once', just never forget what he did to you to make you stop!!! Also, that is her son...are you crazy to believe her and go by what she says. She is NOT looking out for you, only the man that cheated on you!
2007-01-31 06:10:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋