Would you consider a date from a guy who is going thru a divorce that is not final yet? I need some understanding on this subject.
2007-01-31 05:58:56 · 30 answers · asked by Phillip M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes i would.
2007-01-31 06:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by misunderstood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define "going through" and how nasty is this mess?
I started dating before my divorce was final - when we were through the bickering and just waiting for a court date.
I would (if I were single and not happily married) consider dating a man who was near the end of divorce and completely severed living arrangements with his soon to be ex. If everything was still early in the proceedings I would say no - no one wants to be the rebound girl.
2007-01-31 14:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...I wouldn't want to add any heat to the fire during the divorce. The wife wouldn't take to kindly to that and I'm sure it would cause problems...no matter if she wants the divorce or not. If I was interested in the guy I would make a date with him after the divorce was final.
2007-01-31 14:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jacob's Mommy (Plus One) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not consider it, only because as a woman of age when we date a man, we are wondering if he could be the one or can you see yourself with him. But when a guys divorce is not final, his wife is still in the picture and there is still the possibility that they can reconcile, and we all know that men lie and say that their marriage is over when infact they just want their cake and eat it too.
2007-01-31 14:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by Wifey06242005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would, only if the following applies:
-You have a lawyer
-You have a court date
And even so, I would wait until the divorce is final to make any moves.
If you are separated and thinking about a divorce then NO, NO and NO.
If you are married "but miserable" and "need companioship" then NO, NO and NO.
If your wife lives in another state, and you are "exploring the field" then NO No and NO
If you are "married BUT lonely" then NO NO and NO
Good luck
2007-01-31 14:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 100% positive that's what you decided then I don't see a problem with it. If you are one of those guys who brings it up during conversation like "My Wife.... " then you shouldn't move one. No female wants to hear all the extra baggage and if you are still reminiscing then you aren't over your ex! And if their are children involved and you are moving on and are not divorced yet then you would be considered a prick because first and foremost you should be worried about your children not getting laid.
2007-01-31 14:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by mpmemory 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no. Like someone else said it is considered adultry but then again if you are the one getting the divorce then u shouldnt be dating at all. but if you are gettin divorced id still say its probably better to wait and let the pain of your wife leaving you kind of tone down and then decide if you want to date more
2007-01-31 14:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by Dany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on the circumstances. Personally, I am tired of being stuck in between old relationships. I'm tired of hearing previous married couples argue on the phone about past problems.
But, when I was going through my divorce, anullment, someone special spoke with me on phone, and we even dated a little. My circumstances were different. My husband and I never spoke again and my lawyer had him sign papers without me ever having to see him again.
The person I had started seeing, became someone whom I had 7 wonderful years with. We would be married now but silly pride has kept us apart.
Good luck!
2007-01-31 14:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by lizzybit64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a final date? Can I see the court papers?
I think casual dating is okay, but I wouldn't have sex with you until the divorce was final.
2007-01-31 14:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!
Simply because I would not want to be the rebound g/f, nor caught up in the middle of any marital drama.
Mentally and emotionally, you are caught up in the divorce, feelings for your soon to be ex, and kids if you have any.
A relationship is probably not something you are looking for at this point anyway, and I would not want to be a booty call for anyone.
Just figure that you will need 6 months per one year, times the number of years married before you would be remotely ready for a long term relationship.
2007-01-31 14:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I did!
I was going through a divorce, and so was he. We went out a couple of times, the third date he asked me to marry him. I said "I'm not divorced yet", he stated "Neither am I".
That was 13 years ago. We just celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary.
GO FOR IT!!!!!!!
2007-01-31 15:53:40 · answer #11 · answered by sbratt2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋