HELP!!!!
2007-01-31 05:58:39 · 38 answers · asked by Aly 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm 15 and I love to have sex. But you have every right to abstain and if he doesn't respect that then get a new boyfriend.
2007-02-01 14:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your boyfriend is pressuring you to have sex then that's probably the only thing he wants from you. In other words he might only want to use you, knowing that you have been used is not a very good feeling... besides your too young! what if you get pregnant? or what if you contract STDS, what if you get HIV or AIDS, that's practicly a death sentacne if it's not detected in time.... like i said your too young, you will never be 15 again, enjoy these years with your friends, go shopping, go to the beach, have fun enjoy life because once you get pregnant you will need to stop thinking about yourself only, your going to have to take care of another human being who cries a lot and who needs your attention 24/7.... enjoy your liberty...and your health...if your boyfriend keeps asking for sex...dump him. You are worth more, you are not some one to be used and then dump to feel like trash...pull yourself together show him that you have values and morals.....let him respect you! sex is a big step not unless you feel your ready don't take it! there is always time!
2007-01-31 07:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's put it this way. Say no, or you could be pregnant soon. Is that enough of an incentive?
Don't you get it? He has NO respect for your opinion and NO respect for your answer, NO respect for anything except he wants to masturbate inside you (protection or not).
When he gets what he wants (if he does) he will be gone. If you say no, he will either gain respect for you or leave. If he chooses to leave because you say no, you are MUCH BETTER OFF without him.
Tell him plain. Either respect me or forget me. Period.
You don't need the hassle and you don't need the worry of possible pregnancy. There is NO safe sex with or without protection. You are 15. Enjoy life. Sex will NOT help you enjoy it.
2007-01-31 07:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready to have sex and he keeps pushing you to have sex, break up with him. Why would you want to be with a guy who can't respect your wishes in the first place. 15 is too young to have sex anyway. Can you support yourself? Can you pay the medical bills if you get pregnant? Can you pay the rent for your own apartment if you get pregnant? Can you take care of your baby without dropping out of school? Can you put food in you and your baby's stomach if you get pregnant? Can you get any kind of job to earn the amount of money you will need to pay for everything you and your baby will need to support yourselves. NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO!!!!!!! So why would you risk the high chance that you will get pregnant if you start having sex with this guy? Keep saying no, get your head straight, worry about school instead of this guy. You have lots of time to be sexual, but if you get pregnant your life is over. No more school, not more anything. Get rid of this guy. It is ok to say no and not have a boyfriend, you will live believe me. SCHOOL and then COLLEGE should be the number one items on your mind, not some guy who wants to do you. AND no he DOESN'T LOVE YOU even if he keeps telling you he does. He wants to put his penis in you and he will say whatever he needs to get that accomplished.
2007-01-31 07:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can abstain as long as you want. Perhaps now is a good time to say something like, "Listen Joe, I really like you but I'm not going to be having sex with ANYONE for quite a while. Stop pressuring me about it, it isn't going to happen."
If he starts pressuring you, "If you loved me, you would" slap him in the face and tell him that if he loved YOU he would respect you enough to listen to what you actually SAY, which is NO.
Good for you for holding out, you are way to young for this sort of commitment.
2007-01-31 08:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him I am not ready for sex.
Tell him to respect that, and if you are ready you will let him know..
You are 15, please do not have sex for a boy friend, not a good idea.
I would say try to talk to a older female
Your mom
an Older sister, cousin (at least 20)
An aunt
When you are ready, this is what you need to do before you have sex
1. go to the doctor and get birth control
2. Never Have Sex with out a Condom
this is for pregnancy and ST D's
3. Use a spermicide
Good luck.
Please remember, every time you sleep with someone, you give them a piece of you
2007-01-31 06:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you either need to talk to your mom about what is going on and the need for education/birth control or dump the loser before he pushes you into some thing that you don't want to do. There is no such thing a safe sex. Nothing is 100% to stop pregnancy let alone 100% of stopping one of those loving std that you could be stuck with for life that could destroy your chances of having a child or an std that could end your life sooner then you had hoped.
2007-01-31 06:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by lady_jane_az 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well look at it this way.... Can you take care of a baby if you get pregnant? Do you think he will be around if you do (doubt it). If he has been with other girls can you deal with the fact you may catch an STD from him if he has one (like he is going to tell you) Lot of consequences to deal with when you play adult games. You should be a teen and enjoy your life instead of playing russian roulett with it. If you have sex that is exactly what youll be doing!!!!!
2007-01-31 06:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by lilshedevil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready for sex, then don't let yourself be pressured into it. If your boyfriend RESPECTED you at all, he would NOT try and pressure you into doing it. Only have sex when you are absolutely ready and sure you want to do it and are aware of the responsibilities that are involved. If you do choose to have sex, PLEASE make sure you use protection!!!! Do your research, there are many websites out there that can provide any information you may need.
2007-01-31 06:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all this brings up even more questions. such as what would your parents think if they found out, are you ready to lose it to that individual, will this act make your relationship go better or bad and why does it matter to hI'm so much. im sure you've thought of some of them but you should try to put them all in consideration. Unfortunately these days its almost common for teens to be having sex at your age but its not something that you should rely to. Do what you want and if it means losing him then lose him. You'll only make it easier for you to hook up better with some one when your older.
2007-01-31 06:08:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he loves you, he will wait for you to be ready. It is a very big thing and a decision that only you can make. I would never tell you to NOT have sex, becuase THAT is up to you, but WHEN is also up to you. Don't let him set any time-tables or ultimatiums, you are in control of the situation.
It is like the old joke...
Do you knot the difference between a man and a woman out of a first date together?
All night, he is wondering if he is going to have sex that night; while all night, she KNOWS if he is going to have sex that night...
Good luck and stick to YOUR decision!!!
2007-01-31 06:06:18 · answer #11 · answered by doctor_76 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋