Used to be chat addict, but stopped it 2 months back. Now, spouse is going overseas for 7 weeks, and I am having an urge to go back to online chat rooms. I used to chat with married / single ladies - not for any possible real world relationships, but for online harmless fun. No cyber sex, but just love to tease them and have fun talk with them.
Never met any of them in real, however, have talked to few on phone / sms etc.
Do you think it is acceptable to have chat while spouse is away:
1) to kill loneliness
2) to have good time when I am having freedom
3) just to get some harmless fun
What you think? Feel free to ask further questions. I would like to thank all of you for stopping by to read / reply my question.
Have a wonderful day.
2007-01-31 05:55:58 · 16 answers · asked by Robbie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am sure I will not be engaged in real life relationship with any of them, as I am very confident about myself. This is all about harmless online fun.
2007-02-02 08:29:46 · update #1
Yes, it's fine until u don't cheat ur spouse......
2007-01-31 06:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by rosepetal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wrong, and I believe you think the same thing too that is why you asked. I am sure you can find other things to do with your time, how about looking forward to calling your spouse at the end of a work day and maybe having some phone sex or you can chat with her online.
You said you were addicted before and you stopped, so why go there again.
2007-02-08 03:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by Stac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't harmless. It's an addiction and all addictions impact our lives! If you are asking the question, there is pause for consideration! No, no, no, no, and NO! That's like asking a gambler if it's ok to stop by the casino or a drug addict if it's ok to call up his junkie.
And chatting can and does lead to emotional relationships. Do you think that little of your spouse? Pick a great project to do while she's gone (painting, redoing the fence, whatever) and surprise her with it when she returns. Much more productive and she'll be ever so pleased...
2007-01-31 06:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if it's no big deal then why did you ask? Feeling guilty? If your bored find a hobby and not one that includes any kind of sexual stimulation from other women even if its online. It doesn't matter if you meet them or not, it's called an online affair for a reason. It's a form of cheating. And if you were addicted to it before then why would you go back to doing it. Rearrange the furniture, paint the porch, do things around the house to keep yourself busy. It's called will power, get some. If your wife doesn't care that you do it then go for it, but if you have to sneek behind her back while she's away then you know your doing something you shouldn't and shame on you if you do. You married her for a reason. Stay off the computer. Build or make something special for her to show her you love her.
2007-01-31 06:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by CLM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it is wrong. I am married, just to lay the background. There is a line in marriage that you cannot cross, and that is infidelity. I don't think you are crossing it by doing this in a physical way, but you are definitely crossing this line in an emotional way. Any effort you put forth to talk to these women in a chat room or on the phone, should be effort used to talk to your wife while she is away on the internet or on the phone. What does your wife think of this? How would you feel if she was doing the same thing? And bottom line, if you have to ask if something is ok, that usually means it's not. How is your marriage going when your wife is home? In your question you used the word temptation. Do you know where that word comes from. It is from the Bible. It's used to describe when Satan is trying to get you to do something that you shouldn't be doing. I urge you to not do it. Think of your wife. I would love to help you in any way, even if it means talking to you on the phone. Please feel free to email me if you would want help. I think you can get my email off of this answer thing but if not it is rouse_41@yahoo.com.
2007-02-08 02:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by rouse_41 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to say no...but I'm no better.
i have a habit of doing this too, it once got alittle out of hand though. i was emailing this guy at my work, and we eventually ended up making out in the back room at work. i think that only happened because we were able to do it. if you are not anywhere around these women it might be alright.
the thing is, when i do it i feel bad for doing it after, and I'm always scared I'm going to get caught. if you don't feel right doing it, maybe you shouldn't, but if you do end up doing it...keep it harmless. I'm sure you wouldn't feel to great if you knew your wife was chatting on-line with a bunch of guys while you were away.
2007-02-07 10:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jamie Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do. If you feel it is just harmless fun, then go for it!
Human need communication with the opposite sex. If your girl is away then chat it up. I keep you alive on the inside and it may give you some ideas for when your girl comes back home.
2007-02-08 01:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Luva Luva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldnt get back into chatting after all you do have a chatting addiction of which you claim has stopped 2 months ago how do you know that you wont become one again, find other ways to fill your loneliness, play video games, read some books, listen to music, ect
2007-02-08 01:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a normal thing to want to fill a void, but you can do many things to fill the void. I think you should talk to the one you love about this openly ( which is very good for any relationship to be open, honest, and non-judgemental of one another ) and she how she feels about it. May be she feels the same, or simple would understand.
My signifigant other does that and we are together almost always and I don't have a problem with it at all, but that for us has come about do to openness, honesty, and being non-judgemental of one another.
Good luck to you and her!!
Pinky
2007-02-08 01:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. No, if you're so lonely, go visit your mother
2. No, go paint the bathroom if you have nothing better to do
3. No, go play video games if you want harmless fun.
You sound like a creep. Ladies, this is what could happen if you marry a jerk and have to leave town. Be careful when he tells you he "quit" chatting!
2007-01-31 06:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! You have other friends to visit with! This is not harmless fun! OH! It just is not right! Don't do it! It is emotional cheating! Chat about sports, or Government or something else or just visit with your male friends!
2007-02-08 02:04:36 · answer #11 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋