My fiance's ex-mother-in-law is continuously bad mouthing him to his children. They have been telling me some of the things they were told about their father which are completely not true. Due to this influence, the one girl claims to be "scared" of her father and is talking about moving to Florida with the mother (who moved there when her children were 1 and 2 for a guy she cheated with while married to my now fiance). We found out from his other child that the grandmother is pushing his daughter to move down there. We are in PA and the custody agreement is here as well. They only visit there mother 2 1/2 months a year over summer and most of the time they are with the grandmother. They are legally old enough to stay home alone while the mother is at work, so is there an legal process to restrict unsupervised visits with the grandmother due to the "brainwashing".
2007-01-31 05:43:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Some things questioned.... The ex-wife and ex-mother-in-law do not live together, in fact they live about 2 (driving) hours away from each other..... also the daughter is already in therapy for complusive lying (which is also a characteristic of the grandmother) and low-self esteem (was told her whole life she was her mother by her grandmother thus she has no self-identity)...
2007-01-31 07:00:41 · update #1
I'm not clear on this - but it SOUNDS like the ex-mother in-law lives with the ex-wife of your fiance. Right? If the court order says that they go and spend 2.5 months with the Mom every year - there's not much you can do about what goes on while they are there if it's not illegal. You CAN try to get a restraining order in play - so the grandma can't be around the kids. But - that will take time and money and the courts hate it when you don't try to work things out with the other parent. I'd spend the money on therapy for the kids instead of giving it to lawyers. Afterall - your fiance's kids didn't decide that their parents would make them and then break up and not be able to resolve anything - and then complicate matters further by involving new partners in their lives.
If they are old enough to stay home alone - they are also old enough to tell the courts who they want to live with. Very often the courts listen. If I were you - I'd love these kids up - get them into therapy - try my very hardest to get along with all of the other parental figures in their lives - and know that the children's best interest should ALWAYS be your top priority.
Blessings to you!
2007-01-31 06:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but you'll need to go to court and have a restraining order (or something like that) put out against her so that she can not see your children. The father can keep them away, but it looks like the mother doesn't care that the grandmother is poisoning the children's minds.
I would also see about changing the custody agreement so that they don't have to spend so much time with their mother. If you can get the kids to testify about what grandma is saying, it shouldn't be hard to get a judge to agree that time with their mother is harming them emotionally.
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2007-01-31 13:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need an attorney who is versed in the laws of both States. If you have Physical Custody and not Joint Custody, then yes you can prevent it...otherwise, it is up to the kids...they can refuse to go visit if they are 14 or older, but you need to talk with an attorney about that....
2007-01-31 14:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you can prevent it, but be very carefull. This woman has limited years left and Im sure that doesnt bother you
but if the kids love her this could be something they will hold against you and your husband frever. And could with hold your grandkids from you when they have some.
2007-01-31 13:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by tammer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything you do in life is a choice. If you decide to not let them see her then you can make that choice. That is up to you. I wouldn't let my children see someone who is like that. I would tell them upfront I do not appreciate what your talking about to my children. If you do not stop you will no longer beable to see them. Then follow through what you say. If she stops let them see her if not then don't let them see her. Like I said it's your choice to do what you want too..
2007-01-31 13:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by Alice / Sean G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter couldn't keep her children's father from seeing them and he was verbally and mentally abusive and the judge knew it . They cried every time he cam to see them and didn't want to go with him .
2007-01-31 14:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YOU CAN. IF THEIR IS NO COURT ORDER FORCING YOU TO ALLOW THE GRANDMOTHER TO SEE THE KIDS THEN YOU CAN LEGALLY KEEP HER FROM SEEING THEM. GO TO COURT AND STATE YOUR CASE IN FAMILY COURT. DO IT BEFORE IT GOES TOO FAR.
2007-01-31 13:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by strike_eagle29 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're your children; if you don't want them to see someone, then they don't. Period. And there's no such thing as "parental rights" for grandparents, especially if they're not blood-related to the children.
2007-01-31 13:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by Team Chief 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2007-01-31 13:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by robert m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you can, it is your child and your responsibility as the parent to protect that child
2007-01-31 13:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by whateverbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋