I broke up with my fiance and we got back together but not engaged now. She said she doesn't want me to ask her later if we are together with the same ring. She would want a different one. She doesn't know still if she wants to be with me 100% in the future although she still loves me and wants to see what happens, She says she wants to keep the ring for memory and doesn't feel it is right to give it to me.
2007-01-31 05:37:01 · 38 answers · asked by kws504 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe that if she dumped you - she should return it - but if you dumped her - it's hers to keep. Something about it being a contract and depending on who broke the contract. Sounds like she can keep it if you dumped her.
2007-01-31 05:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by lifesajoy 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its wrong..especially if its a set.. If it was me I would give back the ring anyhow if I didn't want the same ring back later.
I have seen it both ways.. Some guys ask for the ring back, and some guys let the girls keep the ring.. Your choice... Have you explained that its a set? she should understand.. Sounds funny though.. she wants the ring for the memory? But she doesn't want the same ring at a later time.. Is she now, wearing the ring? If not, why sit and collect dust? Why doesn't she want the same ring at a later time? bad memories? It doesn't make sense to me.. Do you know for sure she still has the ring?
2007-01-31 05:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The engagement ring is a promissory gesture indicating that you will marry the woman. The whole premise is that if for some reason you should change your mind that she would be properly compensated for the time she spent reserved for you. However, should she be the one that conducted herself in a manner that did not indicate that she was spoken for, she should give the ring back. In any case, if she isn't 100% sure I think you are both just wasting your time. You're both just using each other as rebound partners from the hurt that the breakup caused. Just a matter of time before one of you starts looking elsewhere for that someone and the next breakup will be devastating for one of you.
2007-01-31 05:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Pc Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong for you to ask for the ring back. It was a gift that you gave to her, and you don't have the right to ask for it. But, she has no right to ask for another ring. She sounds like she is just trying to take advantage of you being nice. She might even get the new ring from you then leave you since she did say that she is not sure about you guys future together. Watch out for gold diggers.
2007-01-31 05:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Wifey06242005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a selfish biatch. It is YOUR ring. She wants to keep it, for "memory"? Doesnt sound like the engagement was that memorable, if it didnt last. Shes being selfish about it. What did you spend, like 3, 4, 5 thousand bucks on the ring? And if all works out, youll have to dish out another 5 grand because she wants a different ring to add to her collection of memories? Get that ring back. And tell her shes being a douche.
2007-02-03 17:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one thing being the rings were a set she should have given everything back upon your break-up. she is in no position to say if we are together to ask her to marry you with the same ring being she made also a statement to you she isn't sure she even wants you 100% in the future let alone still wants to be with you period. she needs to give the engagment ring back
2007-01-31 05:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by precious_52803 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an engagement ring. If you are no longer engaged, she should return it to you. End of story.
For those of you who cite court rulings or say it is "a gift" - an engagement ring is an exception to the rule. It is a gift given as part of a contract of marriage. If the contract is broken, the deal is off and the ring should be returned. If you gave someone an expensive wedding gift, and they didn't get married after all, would you want it back? What about a birthday gift, but it wasn't actually their birthday?
2007-01-31 05:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
She MUST give you the ring back. It was not a gift in the regular sense, but rather a symbol of a promise. If you are not engaged, get the ring back. There is precedent for this in the courts.
2007-01-31 07:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you gave your gf an engagement ring and she accepted it with the intention of marrying you, and then the relationship fell apart, the ring is hers to do with as she pleases.
If she accepted the engagement ring under false pretenses, then you have a right to ask for its return. But don't count on getting it back since YOU broke up with HER.
As for her wanting a new engagement ring if you decide, again, to get married....... I would say this speaks volumes about the girl you are dating, again. I suggest you think VERY carefully about this relationship.
2007-01-31 05:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by kja63 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She's wrong ... she should give the ring back ... period ... girls are so selfish sometimes ... " memories " ... that sh*t is in your mind ... not on your finger ... she can't even wear it on the same finger anyways ... I swear some women ... lol ... tell her if she doesn't give it back - you'll take her to small claims court and win it back ... or tell her you can trade that one in for a bigger and better one in the future if things work out between the two of you ... good luck with whatever happens ... !
2007-01-31 05:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask for it back. She should have returned it to you when the engagement was called off.
The engagement ring is a symbol of the upcoming marriage... since there is not an upcoming wedding and ya'll will not be getting married she should give it back.
2007-01-31 05:44:29 · answer #11 · answered by *Just Married* 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋