Enjoy being Alone vs Friends?

Question

Hi,
I seem to be different than other people? I have difficulty maintaining friends by choice. Either I get too jealous of their success and distance myself, or I find that they tell me too much and I realize that I don't want to hang around them as much as I used to because I am learning who they really are. How can I keep a balance and keep them around without alienating them? Tell you the truth, I enjoy watching TV more than spending time with friends gossiping. What is my problem? Or do I even have one? I see people having a good time with friends, and I want that too, but I can't seem to find "good" people. Now I understand why people say that their spouse is their best friend. I need a spouse. Does anyone out there feel the same way?? Or am I in the minority here? Please tell me your side of the story.

Answer 1

I am still like that in some ways. But that's not very nice (getting jealous of success). We have to learn how to live with one another and enjoy their company. If we only like the people that like us what reward do we have. If were only nice to people who's nice to us what good do we get. It's a challenge to be around people who we have nothing in common with and keeping distance is ok. We don't have to put up with something that bring us down instead let our good qualities radiates as we spend time with them. They may have something special to share with us and to show us their perspective of life so we can make the best of it. Sometimes in times of complaint I'd have to take my place and show the good side of things and to learn to deal with people I meet because its so much easier to deal with and it turns out we have a good time together so long as there's no offense done. Well, good luck and enjoy all the good things in your life. Bye!

Answer 2

There is either nothing wrong with you, or there is something wrong with both of us. I am the same way. I have one best girlfriend, and we hang out a few times a month. But even at that, sometimes I just want to go home and watch TV because the conversation sometimes gets boring. I'd rather be reading a book or sitting in the tub relaxing. And the few other friend I have made lately I don't really want to hang out with because all they do is bash people, or whine about men. Ahhh, it gets old. You are your best friend I think. And hopefully there's nothing wrong with that.

Answer 3

i feel the same way right now with all my of friends. its been that way since junior high but now that i am twenty-one i am starting to see some of my closest friends true colors. hahaha i can relate to you i am always online myspacing rather than spending time with friends. i used to be that type of girl who envied my friends because they could go out more often, have fun, go clubbing, drink and party. My parents were so very strict on me. sometimes i would be feel used because i befriended many friends who used to be outcasts and mostly all of them tell me that i have been such a good friend to them and i am one of a kind...i was surprised because i felt like i did nothing to influence them. usually, all of the lonely people i have befriended changed so much that they tend to leave me and go for the party people. i used to be depressed because of that and now that i am older and matured i dont care. at least i had friends and got to experience friendships. i can understand how you distant yourself from friends when you learn who they really are..i think that's the rigtht thing to do. you dont wanna get involved and go through dramas. i aviod that myself. its just a waste of time. and you know what....it is really true your spouse is ur best friend. i mean i am not married but i have a bf of three years and i see him as my bestest friend in the whole wide world. i feel that my friendship with him is different from my past friendships. we share a great bond with each other and i can tell him everything. he is not fake, he doesn't gossip, he's very true to me. no ur not a minority. when i read ur question i was happy cuz we are both not the only ones going through it. remember everyone serves a purpose in our lives good or bad. i hope that helped. take good care